Okay, hivemind. I met with this woman on Monday morning, and she said she would type up a job offer. I emailed her later that day reiterating how excited I am, acknowledging how busy she is, asking when I might expect to hear something, and asking if there was anything I could do to facilitate the process. I haven't gotten a response to that email, or an offer. Now, she was at a conference last week, and it's a holiday week, and she is superbusy. Is Monday too soon to check in, and any thoughts on whether I should call or just send another email? Keeping in mind that the job starts the first week of January.

So I have to think that he doesn't want me there.

I wouldn't presume that. You should talk to him. It is probably an unintended slight, where he simply presumed that you'd do it at your parents. The other brother might've specifically asked or begged to come, etc. Lots of reasons why it could've happened because of a lack of communication.

Maybe Tuesday? Give her Monday to get on top of things?

I would contact her on Tuesday at the soonest, and might even hold off an extra day if you can. This time of year makes everything get crazy.

David, he would have assumed the same thing about my eldest brother. Plus he knows I have been pretty unhappy with my living situation here and isolated. Yes, there's a slight chance it was miscommunication, but he hasn't exactly reached out since I moved down here. Nor did he associate with me much when he lived in the Bay Area.

When I was living in the Bay Area, my dad and two of my brothers came up north. They called two of my other brothers and two of my cousins to go hang out. I was the only one up there they didn't invite. So...it's happened before, is what I'm saying.

smonster, I think Nora Deirdre's suggestion is good.

Cool, thanks y'all. I'm just all paranoid and impatient and don't know how I'm going to make this all happen in a month, especially with the holidays.

I agree. Monday's too soon, I'd wait until late Tuesday or Wednesday to give her time to recover from her conference and the holiday.

Spidra, I am sorry to hear that your family has hurt you, but I am glad to hear you can go to the PixDesigns where I am sure there will be good food and good company.

Sorry about the family crazies, Spidra.

Thanks for all the suggestions and support. She will be coming over tomorrow and I am sure we will all be letting her know she is loved. I am going to make sure and also let her know my room is her escape pod because she will surely want some down time from the 20+ people. It just breaks my heart that she suffers so.

Just keep reminding her its temporary would be my suggestion. I never believe it much when that's what's happening, but it percolates gently. "This sucks. This WILL go away."