sj, in my office, the employee usually sends one e-mail to the group. So if TCG's office did something that warrants a thank you, TCG should send the e-mail. (Though baked goods are a nice touch, too.)

It's just a physically awkward task for me and kind of humiliating because I have such a terrible scrawl.

Okay, I got it. Rubber stamps making a rebus.

[Eyeball] [Tank] U 4 Y+[Oar] [Toe]+[Well]

sj, in my office, the employee usually sends one e-mail to the group. So if TCG's office did something that warrants a thank you, TCG should send the e-mail. (Though baked goods are a nice touch, too.)

They gave us gift certificate for Crate & Barrel, a candle holder, and a cake.

Rubber stamps it is!

Skipping tons to wish my American Buffistae a Happy Thanksgiving! I miss hanging out here with you guys. Hope you have a wonderful holiday!

{{amyth}} I am so sorry. Wishes for comfort and strength to all your brother's loved ones. It is good to hear that SIL has a close family. It helps so much.

Shir! Go you with the making positive changes in the world! It is really inspiring.

Family is about to descend upon me so I may be scarcer than usual.

I have to ask a bit of advice from those of you that suffer from depression. My sister is having a really bad time of it right now. She has had problems with depression for decades, but this is the worst it has been in years. She hasn't even been to work in over a week. My cousin has been staying with her during the day to just be there.

They are messing with her meds trying to help, but it is bad. I think maybe she got out of whack because she has lost about 40 pounds and I am sure that affects the chemistry too. Her place of employment for the past 20 some years was recently sold too so big uncertainty in her life.

I am just feeling so completely helpless to do anything for her. I don't know what to say or do, and really I would do anything if it would help. Any advice would be appreciated.

lisah, while handwritten thank-yous are the ultimate in gracious correspondence, I'm sure both Jilli and Judith Martin would back me up in saying that rather than causing yourself physical pain, a computer-printed personal note slipped into the thank you card would be a perfectly cromulant substitute. I know the last couple of thank you cards I received were done in that fashion, and it made me feel quite thanked.

{{{Laura}}} I don't have any experience with what you're going through but I can offer hugs and I know someone wise will be chiming in soon.

I have succumbed to wakefulness and completed my grocery list but I still don't have to get out of bed for at least 45 minutes.

I'm making the sweet potatoes which are usually cooked in bacon grease vegetarian style this year. I don't think Facon makes its own grease so I'll be experimenting with extra virgin olive oil instead. Crossing my fingers that the dish still turns out om nom nommy since I'm changing it so our sole veggie guest can have some.

{{{Laura}}} I wish I had some good advice for you, but I'm not sure I do. When depression gets that bad everyone trying to help can almost make things worse because, at least in my case, I don't feel like I deserve the help. Make sure she knows you are there for her, but don't try to force help on her. Be there when she asks for it.

Laura, what a tough situation. Sending your sister some good vibes.

The last time I was seriously depressed, my friends and family took turns calling me frequently to chat. They also recruited friends and acquaintances who might not otherwise call, to talk to me about their experiences with depression. It helped tide me over until the meds kicked in. This was at a time when I was living in Arizona, so no one was physically near enough to do much more. It did help. Their reminders that the problem was a physical one, taking place in the physical brain rather than just being "all in my head" helped. Knowing that I was not alone, that even if they were far away, they still cared, that helped.

If you are worried that she is suicidal, do talk to her directly about it. A reminder that it is far too permanent an action, and that things are going to get better if she can just hold on long enough, can be more useful than worrying that saying the "s" word might give her ideas.

This link [link] may be of some use, from the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance.