I find eye contact the way it's described in fiction to be very confusing because it's always in the plural ("gazed into her eyes") when really, you can only focus on one eye at a time unless you're pretty far away.

Ha! I've never been able to gaze into more than one eye. I always assumed that was because only one of mine actually works at any given time.

Yeah, I'm another one who has a hard person maintaining eye contact when talking to someone. It makes me a little uncomfortable, like we're too close and intimate.

OMG, I made the worst eye contact faux pas once, because I forgot the guy could see me. Sunglasses, you know. I stared and stared and stared and soaked up his yummiliciousness. And then I remembered that...he was the one wearing sunglasses, not me.

So completely fucking busted.

But the ensuing makeout session was kinda worth it.

I never know how much to use. I think the magazines/consultants use WAY more than I'm comfortable with. But I also have issues from being stared at. But the articles about eye contact are often part of that "firm handshake,use first name to create intimacy," thing that I kind of hate. So I'm pretty sure I'm always doin' it rong.

I always assumed that was because only one of mine actually works at any given time.

Me, too, bonny!

I always assumed that was because only one of mine actually works at any given time.

Me three!

So, after taking 2 days off due to sickness, I am back at work today. I still don't feel very well, and I am exhausted. I need a nap really badly.

Every time someone looks at me too long I think they're a creeper in the bad touch way.

Hm, okay. I consider that aggression, actually. Someone wanting to do something to me that they know I don't want.

Strangely for an introvert, when I'm in "public" mode I often do the alpha-eye-contact thing too. I have no problem with public speaking.

OMG, I made the worst eye contact faux pas once, because I forgot the guy could see me.

That's an excellent story! And a happy ending too.

"firm handshake,use first name to create intimacy," thing

I like a firm (not painful!) handshake. A weak handshake turns me off. But the first name thing annoys me deeply. I'm totally comfortable with a stranger calling me "honey" (if it's that Southern faux-affection thing) but I don't want people using my first name to "create intimacy" that isn't there. I got snippy with a telemarketer last night because he not only opened with my first name, he mispronounced it. Double fail, dude. You get no money.

Time Team is the best! And the Globe has no roof, which can be terrible in the cheap seats, not that there are seats in the cheap seats. Also, I did some some of the material from the playhouses sites (the Rose mostly) and presented at the launch of the book on the excavations, which was super fun, and held at the Globe.

But! Time Team! Tony Robinson is a bit of a perv, in that most of the lady archs know not to accept a lift home from him, sort of a way. But Mick Aston is AWESOME. I went to a lecture of his once where someone asked why Time Team never dug around Bristol (which is where Mick's research area is) and he answered "because you don't shit where you eat, son." Awesome.