Context matters, though. I was glad Vortex was Vortex when I told her upon the death of her dad that it was "easy for me to forget that in some families this was not an occasion to wipe down the phone and get your story straight"
Outside of Bitches, this would be horrifying, probably.
But hopefully Bitches would take this as an expression of
a. sympathy
b. a little jealousy of the tight bond between Vortex and her dad, which, obviously, my dad and I never had.
(I've mentioned before that inappropriate humor helps me cope, right?)
I fell in love with A Year On The Killing Streets because Landsman stands over a body wishing he had a patch kit for the dead man's "Slow leak".
Stop means no. And no means no. So . . . stop.
Xander ,'Conversations with Dead People'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
erikaj - Aug 30, 2010 8:09:19 am PDT #623 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!
Vortex - Aug 30, 2010 8:14:14 am PDT #624 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
I was glad Vortex was Vortex when I told her upon the death of her dad that it was "easy for me to forget that in some families this was not an occasion to wipe down the phone and get your story straight"
Exactly! And it made me laugh, which I needed.
smonster - Aug 30, 2010 8:16:23 am PDT #625 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
I, too, suffer from the fear of knowing what to say, further hampered by the fact that it all sounds so cliche. I've mostly made peace with the fact that it's cliched for a reason and just try to let what is in my heart come out, hoping that sincerity will gloss over any poor wording choices.
Gronk. Was back at Nora's by 11 last night, but was so revved from second-lining that I didn't fall asleep until 1 or so. That meant I didn't wake up until almost 11, so my grand plan of working at a cafe on Magazine is not to happen today. So I'll just research stuff here until it's time to go see The Big Uneasy. DJ, if you're around, I hung out with KR last night and had a grand old time. I so adore her - thanks for making the intro back in March.
Jessica - Aug 30, 2010 8:20:39 am PDT #626 of 30000
If I want to become a cloud of bats, does each bat need a separate vaccination?
I do usually wind up sending *something* (card, email, etc) that says "Sorry for your loss" or "Thinking of you" etc etc. It just feels so inadequate.
(And no, I can't call. I have phone fear.)
Daisy Jane - Aug 30, 2010 8:24:05 am PDT #627 of 30000
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
DJ, if you're around, I hung out with KR last night and had a grand old time. I so adore her - thanks for making the intro back in March.
I'm so glad! I wish her sister weren't in Seattle for a wedding. I'm sure she would've liked to have seen you as well. But, yeah those two are really some of my favorite family, and we're the closest cousins in age, so we pretty much grew up together during those magic summers/holidays at my grandparents. Daddy was the one who taught them how to throw a football.
WindSparrow - Aug 30, 2010 8:24:39 am PDT #628 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
the most important rule is "Just do something."
On more than one occasion I have written "I wish there was an emoticon for 'sitting quietly nearby'". Because the emotions conveyed with various forms of virtual hugs... well it is a warmth and closeness, but sometimes you want to tell someone you are there, you are with them... except, of course, you aren't in the same time zone.
Daisy Jane - Aug 30, 2010 8:26:22 am PDT #629 of 30000
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
Also tons of ~ma for Drew and Pix. I can't even imagine how scary that is.
erikaj - Aug 30, 2010 8:26:33 am PDT #630 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!
I used to have phone fear. Working campaigns killed it though.
Zenkitty - Aug 30, 2010 8:34:03 am PDT #631 of 30000
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
I suffer badly from wanting to say exactly the right thing and ending up saying nothing at all.
Me too.
omnis_audis - Aug 30, 2010 8:44:49 am PDT #632 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
I agree, but it looks so weird. Not just because of what I'm accustomed to (because I always have to think about it) but because the comma just sort of dangles when its outside an endquote.Hmm, maybe it's a guy thing then. We are used to dangles. ::snerk::
Argh, no! You're probably joking about this, but seriously, that would cause me to click away IMMEDIATELY.Yes Kate, that was a joke. I'm an idiot, but not that big of one.