All sympathies, Epic.
I am not...I am not the damsel in distress. I am not some case. I have to work this. I've lived in a cave for 5 years in a world where they killed my kind like cattle. I am not going to be cut down by some monster flu. I am better than that. What a wonder...how very scared I am.
Fred ,'A Hole in the World'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Fred Pete - Sep 22, 2011 4:16:03 am PDT #29995 of 30000
Ann, that's a ferret.
§ ita § - Sep 22, 2011 4:43:43 am PDT #29996 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
if he was trying to get a gift that effectively communicated a lack of commitment
I know you have different expectations of the relationship than he does, and I know I'm a commitment phobe to put them all to shame, but I don't get this. It's a birthday gift for the first birthday you've had together. Is there an expectation of a commitment gift at this point? And other than rings, what does that look like? I mean, what he got sounds really nice, and I don't get what's missing.
smonster - Sep 22, 2011 5:34:15 am PDT #29997 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
I didn't expect a gift at all. I certainly didn't expect jewelry or sexy underwear or a romantic getaway. It's just not what I would ever get someone I was dating, and I was trying to understand what led him to choose it. And now I think I get it. He's logical and methodical and likes to make decisions based on orderly thought processes. I'm pretty sure he thought "She likes wine, she likes silver, she likes New Orleans - awesome!"
Me, I'd dither and wander around the store, and go visit another store, and ask a friend their opinion, and analyze what message I might be sending, wanting to strike the right balance between thoughtful and not too much. A book, or some music, or a show I think he'd like, or a snap button shirt...
Ginger - Sep 22, 2011 5:35:07 am PDT #29998 of 30000
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
It's getting to be time for a new thread. If you have any suggestions, hie thee to Bureaucracy.
sumi - Sep 22, 2011 5:39:20 am PDT #29999 of 30000
Art Crawl!!!
epic - I'm so sorry to hear about Domino.
Tom Scola - Sep 22, 2011 5:39:48 am PDT #30000 of 30000
Mr. Scola’s wardrobe by Botany 500
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