Maria,
do you live near a high school or university? You might be able to get a student to drive him to pick up the slack.
My food is problematic.
River ,'The Message'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
le nubian - Sep 17, 2011 8:17:48 am PDT #29750 of 30000
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
WindSparrow - Sep 17, 2011 9:08:18 am PDT #29751 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Maria, if you were suddenly granted a trouble-free and easy life for the rest of your days, you have already had enough of the hard stuff to prove you don't avoid it. I'm glad that ~ma is a renewable resource so that we can send you and yours the best we can while still knowing there's some for Daniel's leg.
erikaj - Sep 17, 2011 9:59:48 am PDT #29752 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!
Erin, yeah, I'd prefer that people I make money arrangements with not be drinking:) Unless it brings out the Arthur Bach in you and I get an awesome rate!(I really want to finish writing this one, though.) Maria, I've never been a wife, but it seems to me you're sticking with your DH...hang in there. Cash, sorry to hear about your brother...if only the meds made them feel better too, right?
Strix - Sep 17, 2011 10:27:47 am PDT #29753 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Maria, you ARE NOT slacking or being a bad wife! You are doing the best that you can, under trying circumstances and this job has to pay for the medical care. MUCH LOVE, because you are dealing with a massive shitstorm.
Daniel and WS: healing and coping-ma to you both. Ugh.
erika, I am working on follow-up email to you in the nextt 1/2 hour, I swear. NO DRINKING...I mean, iced tea, but that's not very Burroughs/Hemingway/Fitzgerald-esque, which may be disappointing!
Quick query: So I download and unzip some fonts from dafont.com.
How do I get them to show up on my font options for Word and Powerpoint? Do I need to restart my computer? Or extract them specifically to those programs? (If you have advice, pretend you are talking to a bright 6 year old, ok?!)
Calli - Sep 17, 2011 10:32:49 am PDT #29754 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
Maria, I'll just echo what the people above said about taking help when offered. When someone you love is hurting, whether a child, parent, spouse, or other loved one, you want to be able to help out. While it might be stressful for your FiL, being elsewhere and feeling like they can't do anything is also stressful.
Strix - Sep 17, 2011 10:35:02 am PDT #29755 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
And insent, erika!
§ ita § - Sep 17, 2011 12:26:10 pm PDT #29756 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
I don't want anyone thinking I'm trying to get out of dealing with the hard stuff.
Who is this anyone? Seriously--being the wage earner in a sick spouse situation is *not* getting out of anything. Who'd be better off in the long run if you were jobless? You certainly wouldn't be, mental healthwise.
Laura - Sep 17, 2011 12:35:20 pm PDT #29757 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
Take care of yourself, Daniel. Quick healing wishes.
Maria, you are doing everything and a whole lot more. Strength and energy wishes.
Connie Neil - Sep 17, 2011 12:58:51 pm PDT #29758 of 30000
brillig
Maria, Hubby wanted to tell you something, that if your DH is anything like him, that not having you there means he doesn't have to be stoic and tough and not show the effect these treatments are having on him. Hubby has asked me to leave treatment rooms because he can't hold on to the "I will not show weakness in front of my wife" thing he holds on to at nearly any cost.
The point of all this is to get your DH better. Whatever it takes--you at work, someone at his side that he doesn't care if they see him showing "weakness"--doesn't matter so long as it all works.
Barb - Sep 17, 2011 2:53:09 pm PDT #29759 of 30000
“Not dead yet!”
Andi and Daniel, glad that it's not worse and that it's manageable.
Maria, so many of the wise, wonderful people around here have already said everything I immediately thought, but I'll echo smonster and Pix and everyone else who said be good to yourself, love. You're not bad or weak or slacking or any of the things the evil imps have been whispering in your ear.