Here's the whole thing: She texted me that day saying, "Hey, I'm having a rough day, I appreciate it if you wouldn't linger in the kitchen." So I told her I'd be in there only between 7 and 8, and she didn't respond so I assumed that was okay. It was while I was eating (between 7 and 8) that she told me there was an anniversary of some kind and that she needed to be alone to cry, so could I go eat in my room.

I had been planning to make dinner for StW the next day, and so I texted her to ask if that was okay, saying that he could stay in the front of the house or I could reschedule. She replied with, "You can do whatever you need to do I would just appreciate it if you don't linger. Which is what I would appreciate most days. I really like my privacy and alone time, and I know you have to use the kitchen but there's also not a more private place for me to go but my room."

So, I mean, I get it, but if I'm in the kitchen there's the living room where she could go hang - that's her room, too, though she chooses never to use it. IDK. I just don't have the spoons right now. Invoking FPC.

Which is what I would appreciate most days. I really like my privacy and alone time, and I know you have to use the kitchen but there's also not a more private place for me to go but my room."

Oh hell no. I was with her (as in following the logic and understanding why she would ask that, if not how she chose to do it) up til there. But that's taking things to a totally different place.

She graciously understands that you have to use the kitchen? I'm sorry, that is some whacked out shit right there. I am livid.

Yeah, she needs to live in a place with a bedroom with a door.

I mean, I'm an extrovert, and I had a really hard time sharing a dorm room my freshman year. I had had my own bedroom my entire life, and it was a huge adjustment. Plus, I was 500 miles away from home for the first time in my life, and the only person who went to college in NC from my high school. PLUS, my mom was diagnosed with cancer three weeks after I got here. I wanted a private place to cry, too. But I would never have asked my roommate not to be in her space.

I really like my privacy and alone time, and I know you have to use the kitchen but there's also not a more private place for me to go but my room."

...Which is why she shouldn't have moved into a place where she knew there was no door between her room and the kitchen! I mean, I do feel for her, but it's just not reasonable to request that someone not "linger" in a common space, especially one that gets so much regular use, like the kitchen. For a day or two, for a specific reason, OK. For all the time? That just doesn't work.

She is being totally unreasonable.

I am a person who really needs alone time and privacy, so I can understand where she's coming from.

However, because I know this about myself I also have never lived with a roommate (except for living with my parents as an adult on different occasions). Just thinking about sharing living space with a stranger or acquaintance makes me tense up.

If she should know better than to move into a shotgun house with no door on the bedroom.

...Which is why she shouldn't have moved into a place where she knew there was no door between her room and the kitchen!

I'm with Kate on this one 100%.

There is an old saying, "You buy your ticket, you take your ride."

If she expected to have a cocoon, she should have moved into a cocoon, not expect smonster to knit her one!

Next week, you'll have to stop "lingering" in the bathroom.

(it's Bitches - I'm being bitchy)

Next week, you'll have to stop "lingering" in the bathroom.

(it's Bitches - I'm being bitchy)

::loves Toddson so very much::

(snorgles Barb)

So, she has her own bedroom (even if it lacks a door), but that's not enough? I mean, it's not like "lacks a door" means that it's all one room, does it? We're just talking doorway-with-no-door? If so, she needs to fuck off. (If it's all one room, well, I guess I can see suggesting you eat in the living room...but in that case maybe it's a bad idea to have a roommate?)