I was just talking to a couple today about scheduling their 'special time.'
Ha! THAT, of course, we don't schedule, and we pay a price for not planning. We both procrastinate, and good intentions don't count for much when it's suddenly midnight and "Want to have sex?" translates to "You are going to get 5 hours of sleep tonight!"
(And yes, I am Sheldon-like enough that a simple "Want to have sex?" is much better than trying out some smoooov moves on me. Also, we've been together for 5 years; the moves are no longer smooooov.)
So, uh, yeah. We really need to schedule sexytimes. Or even just movietimes.
One thing I do is "plan to do nothing" Not have nothing planned, plan to do nothing. It's a huge recharge. I deliberately don't worry about unfolded laundry or errands that need to be run. I just relax. I did it on the 4th, and it was great. Until WW3 with fireworks started in my 'hood.
when it came to the time, I would just feel not in the mood to do what was on the list (even though it wasn't necessarily chore-type stuff). I was worried wiggle room would help with the self-sabotage, but I'm beginning to think the lack of it made me fight against my own scheduling.
Seriously, having a 2- to 3-day range to decide what day I'm going to clean the dog bed and what day I'm going to clean the goddamn baseboards was a GODSEND. Because a 1-day assignment meant that if I wasn't in the mood for baseboards, then I just destroyed my nifty schedule and had to shift other stuff around.
This way allows for a more organic shifting. And, honestly, allotting 2-3 days for a given chore did NOT lead to me doing them all on Day 3. A lot of times I would look at the calendar and think, "Hey, I can clean the dog bed in 20 minutes! I'M DOING IT NOW!" And then I could cross it off and the next day or 2 were "free." Which is cool.
records of, for instance, holiday dinners
Steph, my mom and I do that just for Christmas - we end up having somewhere between 8 and 25 people over depending on who is in town, so we have a grid with # of people = ham/potatoes/turkey size, then we spilt the shopping and cooking. That's the only way we could do it. I have NO idea how my grandmother did it all by herslef, especially since she did a sit-down dinner for 25 to 30 back in the day oy!
I'm marking posts and taking mental notes on this whole conversation. I am awful at keeping a schedule.
I'm home from my uncle's funeral. Both the priest and one of his granddaughter's did a wonderful job saying just the right things about him. I'm going to miss him so much.
Also, we've been together for 5 years
What? You have not!
Trufax. Actually, 5 years and about a week shy of 5 months.
I've lived with him for over 3 1/2 years.
...I KNOW!!!!!
Trufax. Actually, 5 years and about a week shy of 5 months.
I've lived with him for over 3 1/2 years.
Wow! Where did all that time go?
This is one of the reasons I'm so old.
I'm so sorry, sj. I'm glad he was eulogized wonderfully.
Yeah, we also try to schedule sexytimes. And now with my BP getting so high, we are scheduling it more frequently. I will let you all know how that particular treatment goes.
