We're here to be dumped on!
Maria, I don't think I could say it any better than everyone else has.
Oy, P-C.
Can't any one of your damn little Scooby club at least try to remember that I hate you all?
Spike ,'Get It Done'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
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Daisy Jane - Mar 15, 2011 9:16:19 am PDT #17657 of 30000
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
Maria - Mar 15, 2011 9:16:22 am PDT #17658 of 30000
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
They asked if she wanted to put it on hold for when he gets better.
I can't tell you with how much rage this fills me. The stupid burns.
Barb - Mar 15, 2011 9:19:33 am PDT #17659 of 30000
“Not dead yet!”
But what if I actually do run away? It's not outside the realm of possibility. Then I'm not only weak, but a disappointment.
Dude, not if it's what you need to refill the well and gather your strength. Ain't no shame in that.
As for being dumped on, pfft-- as DJ said, that's what we're here for.
Polter-Cow - Mar 15, 2011 9:21:07 am PDT #17660 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
We're all wearing dumping hats.
beekaytee - Mar 15, 2011 9:32:27 am PDT #17661 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
Strong isn't how you feel--strong is what you DO.
It's been said many times, Scrappy is wise.
The situations are completely different, but I have to say that the thing (besides staying alive) that was hardest for me when I was so sick last year, was people causing themselves to suffer on my behalf because they 'should.'
Given how much you love your uncle, Maria, I can only think he loves you as much. I wonder if he might want you to remember him the way you want to remember him.
beekaytee - Mar 15, 2011 9:33:12 am PDT #17662 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
We're all wearing dumping hats.
My dumping hat is currently at a jaunty angle, ready for service.
beth b - Mar 15, 2011 9:36:45 am PDT #17663 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
Sometimes, and you have to decide if it works , running away or curling up in a ball for a named period of time helps. I sometimes give myself 24 hours to wallow. Usually I feel able to deal with things better after doing so. That is grieving
JZ - Mar 15, 2011 9:38:01 am PDT #17664 of 30000
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
So much love, Maria. I'm so sorry, for you and your dad and your uncle and all your family, and whatever anyone here can do to help you cope and function and vent and even give you a safe space to retreat to when you need it, we will do.
I also am wearing a dumping hat.
Strong isn't how you feel--strong is what you DO.
Which, it turns out, goes beautifully with my "Scrappy is wise" t-shirt.
-t - Mar 15, 2011 9:38:34 am PDT #17665 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
But what if I actually do run away? It's not outside the realm of possibility. Then I'm not only weak, but a disappointment.
Oh, honey, no you wouldn't be. You'd be human and hurt and sad and that is all hard to bear and there's no shame in crumbling sometimes.
I know you'll do as much as you can for your father and your uncle and the rest of the family, but when you can't do anything don't hold that against yourself.
Atropa - Mar 15, 2011 9:42:52 am PDT #17666 of 30000
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
But what if I actually do run away? It's not outside the realm of possibility. Then I'm not only weak, but a disappointment.
No, then you'd be taking care of yourself and making sure you have some resources left when you absolutely have to cope. Trust me on this.
Maria, I am so sorry. There isn't anything I can say to make it better, but you are in my thoughts.