Was he trying to make his marriage fail?

The short answer is yes. Mostly because there is a story about marriage being chaotic and awful. The trick is to change the expectation. If he leaves the marriage, I want it to be because he has thought it through and made a rational choice. Blowing it up because he doesn't know how to NOT blow it up, isn't acceptable.

That's cool, Liese. Good on them.

IOmememeN, I would be money ahead to throw my tax refund at my 8.5% car loan, rather that at the hospital bills, for which I have already arranged a payment schedule and as far as I know carries no interest, wouldn't I?

If he leaves the marriage, I want it to be because he has thought it through and made a rational choice. Blowing it up because he doesn't know how to NOT blow it up, isn't acceptable.

I love that wisdom.

Just doing a PhD and teaching.

Is that like pushing up daisies?

Actually, yes.

Love the story of the store-owners and the feral cats!

Blowing it up because he doesn't know how to NOT blow it up, isn't acceptable.

It seems to me that there's a potentially good difference between NOT knowing how to not blow up his marriage, versus deliberately being an asshole with full knowledge that he could do otherwise.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, he doesn't sound like an easy client, but one who can potentially be helped. It's good he's come to you, bonny.

It seems to me that there's a potentially good difference between NOT knowing how to not blow up his marriage, versus deliberately being an asshole with full knowledge that he could do otherwise.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, he doesn't sound like an easy client, but one who can potentially be helped. It's good he's come to you, bonny.

What you say is true. In this case, I have total confidence that he isn't actually an asshole. He is a good guy who acts like an ass when he feels persecuted...which is too often.

I'm glad he is coming to me too. He came via referral by a fellow who had similar issues and is now 'cured.' So, I'm hopeful.

I need to get over myself. I'm pretty stressed about all the stuff that needs to be done before the auction, and I asked a fellow organizer to do one thing for me yesterday, and she did not. And I have done the bulk of the solicitations for the silent auction, and I really need to get off my ass and go walk down the main drag hitting places up and dropping off fliers, and I'm feeling cranky and put upon.

I mean, this was my idea, and I haven't been as proactive about asking for help as I could be, but I wish I'd gotten a little more help in the solicitation department. Also, me being me, I really hate doing shit by myself and would like some company.

Whatever. I'm just venting. Need to get off ass and get dressed and get out the door, and it will all be fine.

We now return you to your regularly scheduled Bitches thread.

{{smonster}} It sucks when people don't follow through on stuff.

Edited because those ::'s were meant to be hugs, and apparently I'm too sleep-deprived to get it right the first time.

::smonster:: It sucks when people don't follow through on stuff.

Totally this.

It sucks when people don't follow through on stuff.

Well, I'm also the queen of not following through on stuff, so in a way it's also karma.