I've been exchanging emails with a guy from eHarmony. Then we sent each other our phone numbers. And he hasn't called me, and I've been way too nervous to call him. I need to get past this -- this guy seems really great. Normal people are able to make phone calls. I should be able to do this. Tomorrow.
I've tried to march in the Slayer Pride Parade ...
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Hil R. - Feb 20, 2011 2:55:55 pm PST #15885 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
Strix - Feb 20, 2011 3:15:20 pm PST #15886 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Script it, Hil. Have a script for if he picks up, and a script for leaving a VM. Either way, if you practice, like a call for an interview, it takes some of the tension out. "Hey, this is Hillary; we've been emailing? I have some time free next week and I'd like to see if you wanted to get a coffee/smoothie/tattoo/dinner. Would Tuesday or Thursday after 6 work or you? Let me know by Monday night. Talk to you soon!"
Have 2 potential times and 2 potential choices picked out; that "Um, so whaddya YOU wanna do?" thing makes phone calls worse. You want to offer choice, but not so much choice that a guy gets paralyzed.
And if he doesn't want to meet, you can find out now, and move on.
You can approach it as an Onerous Task (it kinda is, you know; An Interview to See If You Can See If Are Compatible) and be all "OK, I'm gonna call!" on here, then report back!
Hil R. - Feb 20, 2011 3:21:12 pm PST #15887 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
Thanks, Erin.
He lives three hours away, so coordinating meeting would take some work. From the emailing, we do seem pretty compatible. Maybe he's also got phone anxiety.
coffee/smoothie/tattoo/dinner
snerk
Strix - Feb 20, 2011 3:34:09 pm PST #15888 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Calling just to chat can be flop sweat-inducing in men and women; broach it like "I've really enjoyed emailing with you; the thought of phone conversations makes me a little nervous -- I always worry that I babble or that I'll run out of things to say, but I'd like to try it. I feel like you'd be even more funny/thoughtful/clever on the phone. You want to try to communicate a bit the old-fashioned way?"
You can leave out "And I really want to see if you're a mouth-breather so I can go back to wasting my time on network TV if you are."
Aims - Feb 20, 2011 4:17:17 pm PST #15889 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Just got the Snow Day call!
WindSparrow - Feb 20, 2011 4:21:21 pm PST #15890 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Just got the Snow Day call!
W00t!
And that makes me think I might have made a tactical error in telling the plow guy that I need to leave for work tomorrow at 12:30 - it being conceivable that I might be requested to come along earlier due to folks not having their day program.
Hil R. - Feb 20, 2011 4:51:55 pm PST #15891 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
Well, the eHarmony guy called me. And we talked for a while, and it was nice.
Nora Deirdre - Feb 20, 2011 4:55:35 pm PST #15892 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
YAY, Hil!
beth b - Feb 20, 2011 5:00:44 pm PST #15893 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
yay Hil !
Strix - Feb 20, 2011 5:06:51 pm PST #15894 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Onerous Task WIN!