Spike: We got a history, him and me. Fred: What? Spike: It was a long time ago. He was a young Watcher, fresh out of the academy when we crossed paths. It was a, what-you-call battle of wills and blood was spilled. Vendettas were sworn. It was a whole-- Fred: My God you're so full of crap. Spike: Yeah. Okay.

'Unleashed'


Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Steph L. - Feb 16, 2011 1:46:34 pm PST #15724 of 30000
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

Oh man, you guys. I'm just posting because Tim's not home from work yet and I have to get this out of my head:

I am So. Over. Goddamn. Death.

Another of my uncles, one of my dad's brothers, passed away this morning. He was the one who was horrifyingly ill-appearing at my other uncle's memorial service in September. My dad said that today he was maybe 85 pounds. Honestly, I am surprised he made it this long. He was only 64. So that's 2 uncles younger than my dad who have passed away. It was marginally funny the summer that they all started having heart attacks within weeks of each other, but dying in close proximity? Not cool.

I don't even know what, ultimately, it was that killed him. Dad doesn't know. It wasn't the same heart disease that the rest of them have -- he's the only one who never had a heart attack or stroke or any cardiac procedure. But he drank and smoked in prodigious quantities his entire life, was not a healthy eater, nor did he exercise, and he refused to see a doctor. So -- liver failure? General failure of everything? Don't know.

I am having a (gluten-free) beer in his honor right now. If I had whiskey in the house, I'd have whiskey. I will not have a ciggie in his honor because I don't smoke and the prospect of bumming a smoke in my neighborhood runs the risk of an encounter with (1) a gang member or (2) a hipster, neither of which I want to deal with.

Fuck, man. My *mom* is 64. My dad just turned 69. I know it happens to everyone eventually, that's the deal. I know that. But damn. God damn. I've really had enough.


javachik - Feb 16, 2011 1:53:52 pm PST #15725 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

That's really young, Teppy. I am sorry that you and your dad have suffered such loss.


Calli - Feb 16, 2011 1:54:26 pm PST #15726 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

Oh, lordy, Steph. I am so sorry.


hippocampus - Feb 16, 2011 1:56:32 pm PST #15727 of 30000
not your mom's socks.

Steph, I'm so sorry for your loss, and your family's loss.


Cass - Feb 16, 2011 2:02:45 pm PST #15728 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.

Oh, damn, Tep. That is just too much. Over it. Step off, Death. I mean, it sounds not entirely unexpected but there is only so much a family should have to deal with in a swath. Over.


SailAweigh - Feb 16, 2011 2:08:59 pm PST #15729 of 30000
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb

Oh, that just sucks, Steph. Sending tons of sympathy your way.


Atropa - Feb 16, 2011 2:17:22 pm PST #15730 of 30000
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.

Steph, I am so sorry.


ChiKat - Feb 16, 2011 2:17:45 pm PST #15731 of 30000
That man was going to shank me. Over an omelette. Two eggs and a slice of government cheese. Is that what my life is worth?

Oh, shit, Teppy. I am so sorry.

And, thanks for the good wishes about Mickey, but it turns out I spoke too soon. Vet called this afternoon with the radiology report. He has a small mass in his lung. Not sure what that mass is but lung cancer is high on the list due to his age (he's 11). Because of where it is, they can't aspirate it. I need to have a consult appt with oncology to figure out next steps.

This is my nightmare situation. What can be done? And, can I afford it? And, even if I can, should I do anything? Will it help him in the long term? He's healthy now, he eats, he plays, he breathes fine, but how long?

Being an adult fucking sucks in some situations.


smonster - Feb 16, 2011 3:11:01 pm PST #15732 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

Steph, I desperately wish there was something I could do besides read and let you know that I am here. I am glad you have us to vent to.

Oh, Chikat. Fingers crossed for Mickey.


Laura - Feb 16, 2011 3:12:09 pm PST #15733 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

{{Teppy}} I am so sorry. Too much. I hope Tim is there to comfort you by now.

{{Chikat}} I am so sorry to hear this news. What sucks is making the decisions that are best for Mickey might not be the best for your heart. I hope the vet has better options than your expectations.