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The drifting was the biggest problem around here. If it wasn't for that, we all probably could have gone in to work today.

I'm also a little nervous about the idea of getting married. I've lived alone for about 10 years now and I love it. I would have to have my own space in our home (an office, etc.) with my own TV and when the door is closed, he leaves me alone.

That's what I do. D is downstairs, with the TV and his netbook, and I am upstairs in the office with my laptop (and streaming Netflix.)

It works out pretty well.

Not only do Jason and I tend to be in the same room when we are home, the two dogs and two cats tend to be in there as well. I do take a bath most evenings when I get home from work, and that's my alone/destress time.

I am lucky in that being with J is as relaxing as being by myself, which is UNLIKE being with my ex. I do enjoy when J is away, but mostly because it means I can watch all the Criminal Minds I DVR.

I've lived alone for about 10 years now and I love it. I would have to have my own space in our home (an office, etc.) with my own TV and when the door is closed, he leaves me alone.

This. So very much. I've lived alone for 12 years now (the cat is really quiet and doesn't bother me!). I love it.I love coming home and not having to talk to others if I don't want to. I have friends that I can get together with and talk to so I rarely feel lonely when I want company.

I love the idea of being in another room and watching stuff while Hubby does his own thing, but it turns out Hubby is much more like a puppy than I thought--his ideal world has me less than ten feet away from him at any given time, and he reluctantly acknowledges that this is unworkable. He is a pack creature, and I am his pack.

Aw Sox {{{}}} that's rough. Totally frustrating. So sorry.

I'm a huge extrovert who loves having people around me most of the time, but who also just happens to have the occasional panic attack and the occasional seizure, so my brain is an unpredictable and messy mine field, both in the emotional and physical sense. Thankfully, both of these happen very infrequently in the grand scheme of things. Unfortunately, there are Buffistas who have been privy to each, which I feel the irrational desire to apologize for, and also cringe over.

I was never alone until I was 41. Now, much as I like the idea of partnership, I really, really like living my life alone.

I'm a little concerned that one of my exes might show up at the gaming event I'm co-hosting next week. While I was musing about him asking, "What happened to us?" it occurred to me that my answer would have to be, "You peed on the bathroom floor."

I'm shallow that way.

Another one I do is overly try to show whomever I'm interacting with that I can relate to them because I *know* things about them because of some small experience I havethat they might relate to. Like, Vortex ought to really like me and find me engaging because I have met other black women before! It's so incredibly stupid. And then I feel stupid for doing it and clam up and stop interacting.

I'm so guilty of this.

I also will get anxious and that will make me hyper and then I'll be this hyper mess of anxiety and social awkwardness. I also have trouble with conversations with people I like and want to know better.

I can do the chatty shoot the breeze kinda thing, but at various points I've been told I end up sounding like an interrogator and I ask too many questions. So then I don't really know what the line is.

Also I have problems with getting anxious about stuff other people don't even realize. Like when I wasn't able to work and lived with Dad and was taking dancing lessons - I was constantly in this panic that someone would ask me what I did or someone would figure out I was "mooching" off my dad. And nobody knew. But because it was such a huge issue for me, I couldn't see that know one really even knew to ask about that stuff.

Will (aka SLNRLBF) is really great at giving me space. It took some time and some explaining that it wasn't him, I just needed some time to myself. We'll both be on WoW or SL and doing different things , or sometimes have the headset on and not talk for the longest time. I have been worried that , because he's really good with people and way more social but he's more how Vortex described.

My BFF's husband is like that. Between him and the kids, she barely has time to pee by herself. I often offer her my place to come be alone. I tell her that I will leave, or she can just go into the bedroom and watch TV or whatever and I won't say a word :)

Back in the day, my ex-husband used to hand me the car keys and directions to the hotel he'd booked a weekend alone for me. He'd say, "Git."

When I arrived, there would be flowers in the room, sometimes chocolate, or a trashy novel.

The greatest gift though, was his respect for my need to be alone. Who knows, he might have been having affairs while I was away. Regardless, I got what I desperately needed.