I hope you don't think that I just come over for the spells and everything. I mean, I really like just talking and hanging out with you and stuff.

Willow ,'First Date'


Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Beverly - Jan 27, 2011 9:56:34 am PST #14076 of 30000
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.

Happy Birthday, Laga!

I've been thinking about it, and I have to say the idea of an interview coach is a very good one. I mean, I thought I was being friendly and outgoing, you know? And for me, it was. But I failed to project. I learned to put down my pen, take my hands all the way off the keyboard, not just hover in place waiting for the interruption to finish blahblahblah and let me get on with work. I learned to swivel my chair and focus totally on the speaker, smile till I felt like a kabuki mask. I practiced in the mirror, smiling so that the outside ends of my eyebrows came down a bit, my eye corners crinkled--evidently those are "tells" of a "real smile", and you can teach them to your facial muscles.

The problem seemed to be that while I was perfectly approachable and friendly and chatty on the inside, on the outside I was perceived like Agent Cho. So although it felt extremely fake, I called on my acting background, gritted my teeth, and performed. Yes, it cut my job efficiency, by a significant amount. But the people I worked for and with felt a lot more comfortable around me, and my performance evals actually improved. It was frustrating for me, because I could accomplish more if I was allowed to focus on task. But apparently when I did that I made everyone else uncomfortable.


Laga - Jan 27, 2011 9:59:30 am PST #14077 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.

Wow, that is fascinating, Beverly. I really appreciate you sharing in such detail. I'm rethinking how I comport myself in an office environment. Maybe there is more to work than productivity.


amyth - Jan 27, 2011 10:03:27 am PST #14078 of 30000
And none of us deserving the cruelty or the grace -- Leonard Cohen

Calli, I'm home early. Do you need anything?


Steph L. - Jan 27, 2011 10:13:02 am PST #14079 of 30000
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

Maybe there is more to work than productivity.

Unless you work alone, or with a small number of people who have agreed in advance that you can shut yourself up in your Editor's Nerd Hole and just edit (okay, I *may* be projecting there), this is almost ALWAYS true.


Jessica - Jan 27, 2011 10:23:45 am PST #14080 of 30000
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset

Unless you work alone, or with a small number of people who have agreed in advance that you can shut yourself up in your Editor's Nerd Hole and just edit (okay, I *may* be projecting there), this is almost ALWAYS true.

Yeah, my job is about 50% Actual Work and about 50% Bullshit Office Politics.


Connie Neil - Jan 27, 2011 10:24:51 am PST #14081 of 30000
brillig

Maybe there is more to work than productivity.

Until your numbers go down . . .


Atropa - Jan 27, 2011 10:33:59 am PST #14082 of 30000
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.

Happy birthday, Laga!

whimpers quietly

The Dread Spirits of eBay are taunting me. [link]


Daisy Jane - Jan 27, 2011 10:38:08 am PST #14083 of 30000
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."

Happy Birthday Laga!


lisah - Jan 27, 2011 11:33:05 am PST #14084 of 30000
Punishingly Intricate

BOOSH!!!!!


Typo Boy - Jan 27, 2011 11:43:58 am PST #14085 of 30000
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.

Happy Laga day.

Bonny Fides, feel better.

And Ginger, I remember you being pretty miserable. Hope you are doing better today.