We had a friend die in a motorcycle accident at the beginning of last month. I'm guessing no one knows the pw to his facebook page. Mostly people have been using it as kind of an online gravesite. People visit it every once in a while and pay their respects.
I find it fascinating. It's a much better way to feel connected to someone who has passed as well. Right in front of you are their photos, daily thoughts, links etc. that are a much better representation of them than a stone in a field. Plus, you can visit a web page from anywhere.
I know people can get all grossed out by the way technology has changed things, but I'm one of those "Oh, brave new world.." types.
This (long) article is very timely, about online afterlifes: [link]
Daisy, just FYI, any friend of the deceased can notify Facebook via an online form and they'll "memorialize" the account (after confirming the death). I'm not completely sure I recommend it - it stops people getting those "reconnect with X" notices that can be upsetting, but it also deletes all the old statuses (to protect the deceased's privacy) and just leaves everyone else's comments. So you'd still have the memories and thoughts people are leaving now, but as you scroll through time to when they were alive, no statuses. It's kind of weird.
Yeah, I'd want Chris's statuses and posts to stay there, but I'm not really anyone who would be making that decision.
Happy anniversary, Pix and ND! Wishing you many more!
Happy anniversary, Pix and ND! ND and Pix!
After M's brother died, I was surprised to feel upset when someone deleted his Facebook page. I assume it was one of his friends or possibly his girlfriend, and of course I'm sure the impulse was a kind and thoughtful one, intended to spare people pain. I don't mean to second-guess the decision, only to note that it made me sad to no longer be able to see a reminder of his presence online. It's strange what you miss.
Yeah, I feel like deleting it would be sorta weird too. But I could also see how the reminders would be painful. I think I'd probably lean to the "leave it up and tell people to "hide" it if they don't want to see it"
I remember that Anne McCaffrey story! Now I kind of want to re-read it.
Happy PixDesign day!!
I think i may have overdone it yesterday. After a full day of work ending at 5pm i had signed up for a Zumba class at 7pm. I didn't want to go home cuz i knew i'd never leave again, so i got on the treadmill at the mini gym at work and finished my book (about 45 min) then went grocery shopping, then went to the Zumba class. it was super fun, but a serious workout. I had to excuse myself twice to remove some lung-effluvium from the back of my mouth (ick). Then went home, had a very light supper, watched Castle, and went to bed.
Slept more than 12 hrs which i expected on my first weekend day, i was super exhausted at work.
Now i feel like the ick is making a comeback. I've been up for 2 hrs, downed about a gallon of warm water and 4 cups of tea and an apple. I feel feverish but both my primary and backup thermometers tell me my temp is only 96.2, far lower than usual. No wonder i feel so cold?
