Aimee, I don't know all the details of what's going on in your class, but I do know a wee something about incompletes, from both sides of the issue.

I should preface this by saying I am fairly lenient about giving incompletes. I don't see the value of withholding it if a student needs one. But I do have to comply with school policy, which obviously varies by school. For example at my school the college policy is that incompletes must cover less than 50% of the course work, must be completed within a year, and must be for a recorded reason that presented itself after the university Withdrawal date.

If you're professor is indeed being a hard ass, then going over her head may be effective. But prepare yourself for the possibility that her department head will side with her. And if she's saying "no" because the incomplete would go against policy, then the department head won't have any more leeway than she would in the matter.

Burrell - I match up with all of those and believe that I match the policy.

And I just got another email from her stating that if I email her again, she is going to report me to the Office of Student Conduct and Community Standards because I am being "disruptive".

Yeah, I just read Natter Aimee. So yeah, seems like it's a judgment call and you could get an incomplete. But not from her, not in this mood.

I wouldn't worry about her threat to report you, I don't think it has any teeth. You haven't been threatening her, no one is going to blink at your behavior.

Eh. Go over her head but be prepared for things to not break in your favor. You can take the course again for another grade, or just let it pass. Your GPA is otherwise terrific, and if most profs are like me they are so happy to have a returning student who knows why they are in college and who wants to be there. You can SO rise above that one grade.

I think that's what I need to do - just move on with my life and just be done.

Hopefully the feelings of complete failure (which are totally unfounded, I know) will go away shortly.

Full heart, clear eyes, can't lose, right?

Aims you are amazing and in no way a failure.

You're great, Aimee. Hold onto those moments when you can see your successes--like when you're teaching and it all goes wonderfully, or when Em does something to melt your heart--and don't overvalue the moments that made you feel bad about yourself.

Aims, I think this is a time where you just go with what is. It sucks, but we all make messes.

I would tell them the generic name, when it was in the record under the brand name

I have had the pharmacy tell me more than once that I don't have prescriptions for what I have prescriptions for, and sometimes it's because I was talking brand name, and they were presumably thinking generic. But? I have a prescription for the brand name, so I think it's totally legit for me to use that term. Also, shorter word.

I just checked my albuterol inhaler, and it says ProAir. Not sure if that's what would be considered the brand name.

And I just got another email from her stating that if I email her again, she is going to report me to the Office of Student Conduct and Community Standards because I am being "disruptive".

Okay, I'll admit that I'm a shitstirrer in the extreme, however, if I got an email like that from a professor, which, sorry, sounds vaguely threatening, I'd sure as shit be going above her head then, even if I hadn't been so inclined before.

Aims, you have a medical condition for which she haven't been able to afford to get treated on a regular basis. I think the fact that you currently carry the GPA you do is absolutely astounding and a testament to your abilities and dedication as a student. IIRC, you've never asked for any kind of academic exemption before, so to be treated in this manner by a professor is shameful and could potentially reflect poorly on the department.

Then again, I tend to get testy with professors who behave in this sort of manner towards students.

Aimee, I can totally relate to how that feels. It sucks the large rocks to have something that doesn't actually have anything to do with your intelligence or capabilities shake you so hard.

I got a D once (which was actually a gimme because I really should have failed) and it made me doubt everything.

In the end, no one ever asked me about it. I wish I had gotten the GPA I envisioned, but in the end, it was all okay.

It sounds like that professor is a lost cause and you will be well shut of her. I've had a few of those, seriously. But administrators might still help you out.

Luck and satisfactory resolution ~ma coming your way.