Found ride. God bless my friend R.

Not even sad, really, just can't stop crying. Waiting for calls from PCP and pscyhiatrist.

Happy Birthday, Dana! I hope somebody wrote some delectable fic for you and it's sitting in your inbox right now.

But I still maintain that we may never get a good idea of how she was actually dressed.

This is key.

Dress codes are often used as weapons against women. I have a friend who just yesterday was wearing a dress with leggings on underneath who was called out by one of her bosses.

I have been and have had other girlfriends called out because you can tell we have boobs. Short of a mumu, you are going to be able to tell I have boobs.

Take care, Smonster.

Technically, we're supposed to be business casual where I work. Except that we have taken casual to very casual places. Today I am wearing faded jeans and a peasant blouse. But if I had a meeting with clients, I would make an effort to look professional. Of course, it helps to work in a building full of eccentrics, where most seem to get a pass. Some people wear jeans everyday. Some people wear the exact same thing everyday. Other people dress like they are going to a board meeting in 1989.

Last summer out deputy head told all senior mgmt she was going to send out an email insisting that people keep in mind to dress professionally and that jeans were only to be worn on casual Fridays. Except our ED was wearing jeans to the Senior Management meeting. So the Deputy was like, "Well, you don't count."

When I worked for the very straight laced, very old boys network real estate corp in downtown LA, I was told when I was hired that the dress code was professional. I had no idea what that meant and asked the VP that was hiring me what that meant. He replied, "I could never tell a woman what she could or could not wear."

I bought 7 pantsuits and called it good.

Speaking of dress codes at work, did you hear about the woman Citibank fired because she was too goodlooking?

The publisher where I used to work was small and family-owned (I think we had 80 people total on staff) and our dress code was insanely loose. I used to wear shorts in the summer, and one fall I wore overalls once a week.

Speaking of dress codes at work, did you hear about the woman Citibank fired because she was too goodlooking?

Heh. That's what started the conversation.

Dress code varies a lot by city as well as industry. DC (when I temped there in the mid-90s) was very conservative - hose, no sandals, no sleeveless, skirts preferred over pants.

I started a little summer project in the Main library yesterday and was amused by how I was dressed (linen palazzo pants, sandals, linen fitted blouse) compared to the people in the department I had a project in (jeans and t-shirts). I'm in public service; it's a whole 'nother ball game. Annoyingly, librarians are still expected to wear suits for interviews, even though we never actually wear them to work.