I don't remember large swaths of my childhood, but I always assumed that meant I had a dull childhood, except for especially interesting vacations or seeing a deer a close range back in the hills and such. I've got a highlights reel, not a transcript.
I'd always just assumed that that's the natural way memory works. I mean, given time and concentration I can remember what teachers I had any given year, friends I hung out with, and big memorable events. But I can't recall the day-to-day minutia from last week, never mind three decades ago.
My best friend surprises me in that much of his childhood is a blank to him and I know it's not due to any childhood trauma in his case. I've always blamed it on his rooming with a stoner in college.
ON the cop shows, they'll snap to the suspect, "Where were you on the sixteenth?" I would have to fumble and say, "What day was that? What was on TV? I don't know!" Because I'd have to zero in on it from what I'd normally be doing on a Tuesday.
I want to write something like "Where were you when she disappeared?" "I don't know, when did she disappear?" "That's what we're trying to find out." "Well, if you don't know how should I know?" I'd get arrested just for being frustrating.
Where was I on the sixteenth? Let me check LJ and b.org and my email. It's all on record somewhere.
Can I go home now? Please?
Where was I on the sixteenth? Let me check LJ and b.org and my email. It's all on record somewhere.
Heh - that would be me. "The sixteenth? I don't know, what was my Facebook status?"
I think most people would.
I know of at least one case Ann Rule wrote about where they were only able to pinpoint TOD because the two little-girl witnesses got to stay up and watch "That Girl" on the night in question.
I can't remember a lot of stuff from being about 8 to 14, and that's not because anything bad happened; just teenage stuff. It sounds like you're making progress, though, Tom, and it will come as it comes, or doesn't. You can remember what you remember.
Aw, poor Mac. But it sounds like he's working stuff out better, too, which is great in the long term.
My interview went well; I think I'll definitely get a call back for a 2nd interview. Now i just have to stress (a little) about DH's ex and family being here this weekend. I'm SO glad she lives on the coast. I mean, I wish D got to see M more, but I'm not at all sorry I don't have to deal with her more than I do.
Shallowly, my house looks great, and D said she was a slob. I am not very nice, because I am SO not this clean all the time, but I am happy to pretend I am. It would be nice if I were a bigger person, but I don't like her. And am happy to have little petty satisfactions, as long as it doesn't impact M. Even if they're only in my own mind.
/the meanest.
Where was I on the sixteenth? Let me check LJ and b.org and my email. It's all on record somewhere.
Can I go home now? Please?
Ha, yeah. That is totally how I remember what the hell I was doing on a particular day. Or I go back through my Google Calendar.
Halloween costume idea: Abacus-face
That looks like that thing from
Spirited Away.
But with an abacus.
Yay, raise!
Yay, good interview!
I'm sorry to hear about your family's loss, but it's good her brother was able to be with her at the end.
And Tom, I too see progress with you, and just the fact that you're able to express it with us is a big deal. Keep plugging away.
10 greatest TV pilots:
- Twin Peaks
- My So Called Life
- Hill Street Blues
- The Westerner
- Star Trek
- The Sopranos
- Miami Vice
- Lost
- 24
- Homicide: Life On The Streets
I think that's a pretty good list of shows that came out of the cage swinging (I'm pretty sure I fucked up that metaphor). Never seen The Westerner, though, so I can't comment on that. But all the rest were very "Whoa. What are you doing here? What are we in for?" even if they never delivered on the promise, or devolved into parodies of themselves (yeah, Bauer, I'm looking at you).
Completely unrelatedly, go you, Tom. I think not remembering is perfectly normal under average circumstances, and even more so under yours. I wish it didn't have to be hard for you, because you don't deserve hard things, but if wishes were horses, well, I'd be really irritated, because how many horses do you need, and how does that help Scola?
