Before I clicked through, I really felt a need to defend billytea's life!

Heh. I was thinking this too, like "But billytea has an awesome life now!"

anglerfish: knew that, but still funny. In fact, I think I learned that from billytea (who has an awesome life).

Teppy and The Boy: my relationship role models.

Teppy and The Boy: my relationship role models.

Oh my god. We are so NOT RIGHT. Consider that carefully before you continue with that "role model" thingy.

Seriously, though, I didn't know relationships could actually be like this (and by "this," I mean HEALTHY.) Here's an example: I asked him if he could not do a certain intimate activity as often, because I really didn't like it. Here's what he did NOT do in response: (1) protest how much HE likes it and should therefore get to keep doing it, (2) agree, but keep doing it, (3) tell me he'd find someone who wasn't repressed.

He just...stopped doing it, even though it IS something he likes.

It's a fairly sad commentary on my previous relationships that I was ASTOUNDED that he, you know, respected my boundaries. I really spent a lot of time assuming that I didn't even have the right to speak up if something was painful (bad-painful), let alone something I just didn't like.

It turns out that in a good relationship, "caring" for someone isn't just a feeling, but a verb.

See, that's why you're my role models! I would be astonished if a guy stopped doing something he liked just because I didn't. And I'd probably feel guilty, too.

See, that's why you're my role models!

Okay, but just remember all the ways in which we are SO NOT RIGHT.

Exhibit A: ANGLERFISH.

He just...stopped doing it, even though it IS something he likes.

Wow. I'm impressed.

It turns out that in a good relationship, "caring" for someone isn't just a feeling, but a verb.

Awwww.

I am so not right, myself. I'm looking for a boy who's not right the same way I'm not right.

Well, I did find one. Let me clarify: one who is not gay. Because lemme tell you, knowing that the one guy who really "gets" me is living happily in NYC with a guy I don't particularly like? Kinda miserable. I try not to think about it.

He just...stopped doing it, even though it IS something he likes.

Wow. I'm impressed.

Not only stopped doing it, but didn't even mention that he stopped (like, "Did you notice how I don't [insert act] any more? Huh?"), which I, personally would be so tempted to do and think I deserved a cookie for respecting my partner's boundaries.

He is, honestly, a genuinely good person. In that, the best most people can say is that we don't fuck the world up a whole lot, whereas he is actively good for the world.

t edit Although he is, apparently, also an anglerfish.

Did you notice how I don't [insert act] any more?

Holy crap, he was inserting his act before? KINKY.

Exhibit A: ANGLERFISH.

You have EIGHT PAIRS OF FISHY BALLS? If so, yeah, that's kinda weird.