But that's mutual, and not disrespectful.
Sure – but before it can be mutual, one person has to start it, and the other person has to not take it personally. You don’t know for sure till you try.
A: “I really liked X, have you seen it?”
B: "I only saw enough to determine that it was terrible, sorry."
If A responds by laughing or being faux-outraged, coolness. If A is insulted or genuinely outraged, badness.
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This made me LOL: What makes a volcano explode?
but before it can be mutual, one person has to start it, and the other person has to not take it personally
There are ways to dislike stuff and there are ways to be disrespectful. That's the line I'm drawing. If you think SPN is crap--that's one thing. If you think SPN is idiot-fodder or that everyone who likes it is crazy, that's another thing, and will probably make for a shorter meal.
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Corwood, that sucks. I hope your wishes on the asshat come true.
ita, I agree. But misunderstandings do occur, so there's still a risk. There are people who interpret "I think SPN is crap" as
meaning
"SPN fans are idiots." For the trash-talking scenario to work, both people have to draw that line and understand that it's not personal.
Egad, Corwood. Flakes belong in cereal.
Ii am so sorry, Corwood!
I clicked with the DH at first meeting, in terms of really liking his conversation and wanting to get to know him better. I believe in the click of speaking with someone and recognizing a kindred spirit--which for me is similar with friends and lovers. I don't believe in the eyes meeting and there being instant love. Those moments are about sexual attraction and 99% of the time, the attraction goes away when you actually speak to the person. Sometimes, that spark of attraction is matched by the click of recognition and you get a wonderful pairing like Liese and her SO, but to expect that the only way love can grow is to have that instant spark really limits the field.
In terms of expectations--my dad found it hilarious that I made three ironclad "dealbreakers" after my divorce and that the DH broke all of them. He smoked like a chimney, he was an avid sports fan and he was just getting out of a marriage. What can you do? He quit smoking, I learned to like baseball and the third didn't matter.
It's his first time on a roller coaster.
?!?! How is that possible.