Cheating is a whole 'nother thing. Right now I can't be rational about it because I have a couple of friends who are in a messy situation and it didn't have to be like this if the dude had just talked to his wife about what I'd think are perfectly normal feelings about surviving cancer twice.

Oh! I did have a ...well, less FWB and more fuckbuddy once. Cause, we really weren't friends, much. :). But part of the beauty was that (a) I was leaving town in a couple months and (b) she was a very young wanna be playa. So she was looking for the ...experience, and I was looking for the ...experience. Ahem. But we both had no plans for it to go longer, and both had other things going on. It did end rather badly, in the end, but that was because she was a moron who tried to have her cake and eat it too, and realized altogether too late that it doesn't work that way, and it was easier to make me be the one screwed over (and, because young immature moron, slightly shadily lied to).

Timelies all!

I don't see how someone is a jackass because their agreed-upon, out in the open expectations of a non-romantic relationship conflict with the unvoiced expectations of the other party.

You're right, Matt, but the sitch is more complex than I made it sound. Because I didn't think everyone was really interested in my BFF's love life. Although it seems to have sparked a discussion.

because he basically wanted a girlfriend, except when he didn't. He would call to talk about his day, pay for dinner, make me breakfast, cuddle, etc. But then when he felt like having sex with someone else, he did

Vortex pretty much summed it up. J. acts like he wants G. to be his girlfriend and do girlfriend things (which she does), but he says he doesn't want to be her boyfriend, even though he acts like a boyfriend, doing all the boyfriend things, as well as, he doesn't sleep with anyone else but G. until he suddenly decides "ooh! I want HER!" and goes off to sleep exclusively with the other girl. He's done this thrice now. And, he continues to act like G.'s boyfriend even while dating the other girl (and reportedly telling the other girl how much better G. is in bed) (jackass). Then he gets tired of the other girl and comes bouncing back to G., who's starting to feel like she's his back-up fuck, to make sure he never has a dry spell. And that is why he is a jackass, not because he stopped the B part of the F.

Even worse, I've seen the dude get mad when she said she had a date!

Exactly.

My sistah in the weeds. It's dry and dusty out here.

achoo. I'm starting to forget what a love life is like. Except for the misery. Haven't forgot that part.

Joe Niekro, one of the best knuckleball pitchers of all time (though not as good as his brother Phil) taught a young neighbor how to throw the knuckler before he died.

That is awesome. (And I'm still annoyed about the time when I was in eleventh grade and we had to write a paper explaining the physics behind some everyday thing, and I wrote a great paper explaining how curve balls and knuckle balls work, and the teacher took points off for each place that I wrote "knuckle ball," because he said it should be hyphenated.)

After work today I went and bought a garden cart (smaller, plastic, slightly more stable version of a wheelbarrow) I moved three carts of dirt from big pile o dirt to garden bed. Transplanted some strawberries into pots and manage to split the ass in my pants.

I also sawed some boards to start making raised beds. I learned measuring twice before you cut is useless if you can't saw straight. Close enough for a little raised bed, I hope.

Tomorrow I hope to put boards together. Put first one in place and start filling with dirt.

Did you by any chance buy this cart? [link]

We have an actual wheelbarrow, but I use this almost all the time. It's really light and great for moving bags of soil or branch clippings or whatever.

My sistah in the weeds. It's dry and dusty out here.

achoo. I'm starting to forget what a love life is like. Except for the misery. Haven't forgot that part.

Same here. Well, not so much misery as boredom. While I miss sex, I'm finding myself having an enjoyable life without an SO. So part of me is kinda reluctant to consider changing things.

Then I see a hottie jogging down the road or stand behind someone in the grocery store who smells really, really good. And that's when I go, "Oh, yeah. Dating. There was a reason I tried that."

Calli, I could have just written that entire post. I so am Right There.

Did you by any chance buy this cart? [link]

No, that looks awesome though! I just got a cheap one at Walmart.