So I have to hold firm and let him take his lumps.
Perhaps I am not painting a good picture of this because the next several days will be very lump-inducing for Emmett. It's going to be an extremely unpleasant grind for him to finish this project.
The consequence for this will simply be that he has to do the work. At age 13 it's not as simple as letting him sink or swim on his own. He's moving up to high school next year and his grades now will determine the classes he's able to take next year. Those classes track from year to year so going in lower now has a consequence for his college options later.
This isn't just theoretical. Emmett's godsister fucked up her grades in 9th grade (same school system) and the hit to her GPA kept her out of elite colleges no matter what she did after that.
I guess I should reiterate that Emmett didn't punt the whole project. He's just below the halfway mark, instead of close to the finish line. He has done a lot of work on it already. Probably more work than he's ever done before. It's just he needs to do more.
Hooray for raises. 6% raise in my base comp, and a bump in target bonus. Nice, considering last year we were frozen in both. But, the more exciting part, or more unexpected anyway, is that one of the accounts I did a big project for last year chipped in a good chunk more bonus money. Which is so cool, because they totally don't have to do anything of the sort. I'm a little agog.
Can't they just bring a real date to events where people are bringing dates and introduce them as such?
I can see a lot of people not wanting to "come out" until such is the case (since their love life SHOULDN'T have anything to do with their jobs), but I don't think it is yet.
But, the more exciting part, or more unexpected anyway, is that one of the accounts I did a big project for last year chipped in a good chunk more bonus money.
That's a vote of high confidence. The kind of validation you can't buy with money. Except, that's exactly what they did. Still - they showed you the money.
That's a vote of high confidence. The kind of validation you can't buy with money.
Yeah, it's huge. And I shed blood, sweat and tears on that project but getting some backend recognition (as opposed to obligatory "thank yous" at the close) makes it a lot easier to keep up the energy to do that.
I remember going through similar stuff with my mom, David. She'd do what was needed to help me dig my ass out of the hole, but I was doing the digging. And not like the lumps really stop there.
Perhaps I am not painting a good picture of this because the next several days will be very lump-inducing for Emmett. It's going to be an extremely unpleasant grind for him to finish this project.
Oh, I don't doubt that it'll be less than fun and you were clear about the progress he'd made so far. I know that these days, the way many school systems are structured, the 8th grade GPA has a lot to do with influencing the high school class selection, which in turn has a direct effect on colleges.
In a way, I'm grateful that we're not worrying about elite colleges for Nate-- his processing issues would be a major hindrance to him at a high-pressure university and right now, I'm not at all certain that uni right out of high school is in the cards for him. (Even if it is, I think it would definitely be a smaller school anyhow.) So I guess I'm lucky in that we really can let him take his lumps the way most of us did when we were in school and not have it adversely affect him.
Yes, Chace Crawford is on Gossip Girl.
That's awesome, brenda!
That's great, brenda! Wow. To actually see someone get the recognition and tangible reward for all that work is really cool.
