Am I supposed to be changing my clothes a lot? Is that the helpful thing to do?

Anya ,'Storyteller'


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Steph L. - Jan 15, 2010 6:37:24 am PST #6947 of 30000
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

How does everybody else plan to celebrate their fetishes?

I should take a nap, is what I should do, because I imagine The Boy will enthusiastically want to, uh, celebrate tonight.

(And I am reading Batman in between posting. No surprise there.)


Aims - Jan 15, 2010 6:42:36 am PST #6948 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.

I really noticed something with Em last night at Daisies. We had Game Night where we played "Duck Duck Goose" (which I totally forgot was AWESOME), Compliment Tag (when you tag another person you have to say something nice about them), and "Red Light, Green Light".

Remember the girl I talked about a few weeks back who I was having difficulty with? Her and Em had almost the exact same kind of movements - almost like Tourettes of the Limbs (I'm not trying to be funny. It's almost like that - no control over their body parts). And this was after almost 20 minutes of these girls being at a full-on run. And there wasn't any imitation going on - they were on opposite sides of the room. Em was just different from the ways all of the other kids are different from each other. She can't hold eye contact, she gives up on stuff, she has huge self-doubt and says things that break my heart - "I can't do anything right." or "I do everything wrong." or "Nobody likes me."

I see medication as a tool to help her do what she wants to do, which is learn and play with her friends and be able to pay attention. I don't want a zombie sheep-child. That would totally suck. But if it's medication, then so be it. If it's medication plus working on issues, then we'll do that. If it can be helped with dietary changes, we change our eating habits. I just want her to feel better.


sj - Jan 15, 2010 6:49:59 am PST #6949 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

From the research I have done in various Psychology classes I feel that ADHD can be overdiagnosed, underdiagnosed (especially in girls), and occasionally misdiagnosed instead of something such as manic depression. Which is why it is important that people go through the proper channels for a diagnosis, which is exactly what Aims is doing.


Steph L. - Jan 15, 2010 6:50:01 am PST #6950 of 30000
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

I don't want a zombie sheep-child.

Medication won't make her a zombie sheep-child. At all.


Aims - Jan 15, 2010 6:53:20 am PST #6951 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.

I don't want a zombie sheep-child.

Medication won't make her a zombie sheep-child. At all.

Oh I know. I've seen the wonders it can do for kids who really need it.


Jessica - Jan 15, 2010 6:54:57 am PST #6952 of 30000
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset

Overdiagnosis of ADHD is a real problem with elementary-school aged boys. I've heard (anecdotally, so take it with a grain of salt) of classrooms where 70% of the boys are on ADHD meds - to me that's an indication that something is wrong in the school. If more than half of a classroom needs to be medicated in order to make it through the day, maybe it's not the kids' brain chemistry that's at fault.

[eta:

underdiagnosed (especially in girls)

And of course, this is the flip side. It's a tough issue.]


sj - Jan 15, 2010 7:05:03 am PST #6953 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

We are headed to Mom's beach house for a 4 day weekend, AIFG. It's so peaceful and quiet there in the winter.


smonster - Jan 15, 2010 7:09:35 am PST #6954 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

And because it deserves its own post, apparently today is International Fetish Day: [link]. I plan to celebrate by wearing my semi-colon t-shirt and reading Batman comics.

::loves on Teppy, metaphorically speaking::

She can't hold eye contact, she gives up on stuff, she has huge self-doubt and says things that break my heart - "I can't do anything right." or "I do everything wrong." or "Nobody likes me."

Awww, poor noodle. I'm glad you are figuring things out now.


Amy - Jan 15, 2010 7:12:23 am PST #6955 of 30000
Because books.

Aims, the most important thing, as everyone has said, is that you and Joe are involved and loving and concerned. That's going to make all the difference in the world, no matter what. And testing now is the best first step you can take, because like you said, helping Em to feel better in her own skin is the key.

::hugs Miracleborns::


sj - Jan 15, 2010 7:14:00 am PST #6956 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Aims, keep in mind that if you do end up deciding on medication and there are sode effects you don't like, there are many different medications you can try.