He told me that I've got to take control and make my advisor do the stuff he's supposed to do
WHAT?!?!?!?!
You might need a new therapist. If he somehow thinks you can control someone else's behavior...
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beth b - Nov 16, 2009 2:14:38 pm PST #687 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
beth b - Nov 16, 2009 2:17:38 pm PST #688 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
I get what you are saying Scrappy -- except that she has been told by a number of the people at the university that this is how he behaves.
She can control her reaction, she can't make him do the work. Esp. since no one at the university will back her up.
Scrappy - Nov 16, 2009 2:21:27 pm PST #689 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
This is clearly how he behaves, but I think she can vary her approach to get more of what she needs from him. She can never get him to be reliable or predictable, but she can put a limit on his time-wasting obsession with her writing (whicc we all know is already good, so fuck him) during their sessions and get what math help he can provide. That won't happen unless she puts the hammer down, because, as we all know, the guy is a douche.
Atropa - Nov 16, 2009 2:29:37 pm PST #690 of 30000
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
He told me that I've got to take control and make my advisor do the stuff he's supposed to do
Did he say that he would provide you with an iron-clad alibi for when you take his advice and use a tazer on your advisor? Because really, I don't see any other way of controlling that jerk.
beth b - Nov 16, 2009 2:42:01 pm PST #691 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
I'm not sure how much Hil can do because his general mode of operation is to not answer or not respond to an email and not show up. And there are no consequences.
WindSparrow - Nov 16, 2009 2:45:05 pm PST #692 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
::aims Vortex at Hil's adviser, waits for thermonuclear explosion::
Oh, please let me know when I should pop the popcorn. This should be beautiful.
Did he say that he would provide you with an iron-clad alibi for when you take his advice and use a tazer on your advisor? Because really, I don't see any other way of controlling that jerk.
Anybody else go to a 9 to 5 kinda place with this? Cuz I'm thinking, yeah, maybe tie him up in a basement, and only give him food and water when he does something worth rewarding.
When he doesn't? Take his bucket away.
javachik - congratulations on the approval for your company's product. It sounds like it will relieve a lot of pain for a lot of people.
javachik - Nov 16, 2009 2:47:40 pm PST #693 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
Thanks, Windsparrow, I hope so.
Steph L. - Nov 16, 2009 2:55:20 pm PST #694 of 30000
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated
javachik, I remember seeing something a month or so ago (actually, maybe 2 or 3) about the Qutenza patch. (In one of our journals, we have a section about new products, which is put together from press releases and such. And one of them was about Qutenza, and its efficacy.)
javachik - Nov 16, 2009 2:59:55 pm PST #695 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
Neato, Teppy!!
sj - Nov 16, 2009 3:09:39 pm PST #696 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Yay, javachik! I'm glad all that hard work paid off.