Timelies, all.
Huh. TCF (friend, crush, drama, yada) just called me to tell me about a project he's working on in NOLA that is relevent to my interests. We're getting together at the end of this month to talk about it. Probably won't go anywhere, but nice of him to keep me in mind.
I need to go back to square one with all my coping mechanisms. For whatever reason (SAD, KBD, etc) all my routines have totally gone to shit and I'm a mess and a half. Got to work at 10 am today, which is an hour and a half late. Uggh uggh uggh.
So kick my ass outta here if you see me too much, thx.
ND - so why is this different? aside from the fact that it's usually a large plane filed with morons?
Warning! This a request for blantant hairpats and reassurance because when you can't find either within yourself, you look to those who can (hopefully) see it.
Emeline is turning into "that" kid at school. I just got *another* phone call from her very frustrated teacher because Em won't sit still, bounces all over the place, isn't doing her work, isn't listening, etc. I missed a couple of phone calls from the teacher which, totally my bad, but she sent a note home last night that we didn't get. There is something wrong there and I've been sitting in my car and at my desk, crying, and fighting with myself about what to do. Is it an attention thing? Is this behavior coinciding with Joe and I returning to school this week? Is it too much tv? Is it not enough parental interaction in the evenings? Should we start the testing processes for ADHD or other things? Should one of us go to school with her during the day? Does one of us need to quit going to school for awhile until the other one graduates?
It doesn't seem normal 5 year old behavior anymore. It seems bigger. But I am at a complete loss as to what to do. I don't want to have *that* kid that teachers dislike because they are behavioral issues.
Aww, honey. I don't have advice for you, being neither a teacher nor a parent, but I have hairpats galore. And next weekend I can administer them in person!
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What smonster said except for the in-person part, booo.
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((Aimee))
Don't be too hard on yourself parenting-wise. With two kids, we see vastly different behavior despite being in the same household.
{{{Aims}}} All kinds of hairpats for you, love.
I don't want to have *that* kid that teachers dislike because they are behavioral issues.
Speaking as a teacher, I don't have kids I truly dislike. There are ones that annoy me sometimes, but I don't dislike them.
Also, you don't need to have all the answers right now.
Talk with her teacher. See what she recommends. It could totally be attention-seeking behavior. It could also be that she learns best while moving. It could be a number of things. Meet with the teacher and use that as a first step.
You can also ask Em. Why does she walk around? Is she bored? Why doesn't she listen to the teacher? Why isn't she doing her work? A simple answer could be she just doesn't want to.
Bottom line: you are not a bad mother. You are doing nothing wrong. You and Joe love Em and want the best for her.
Based on a friend's recent issues with her 3 year old, I'd say do a no-TV experiment for a set period of time (2 weeks) and see if that helps before testing for anything.
It apparently worked really well for T, and he was a different kid without screen time. (I notice a difference with Lillian, frankly, when she watches too much TV. She turns into a hyper pill. Drives me nuts.)
::hugs you::
