Echoing what everyone else in the been there, done that crowd has said that all you can do is be there and listen. There's no advice you can really give, you know? Nothing you can do, and no way to change things.
River: They weren't cows inside. They were waiting to be, but they forgot. Now they see the sky and they remember what they are. Mal: Is it bad that what she said made perfect sense to me?
'Safe'
Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
P.M. Marc - Dec 12, 2009 5:58:01 pm PST #3491 of 30000
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
libkitty - Dec 12, 2009 6:01:10 pm PST #3492 of 30000
Embrace the idea that we are the leaders we've been looking for. Grace Lee Boggs
Thanks all for the ~ma, especially WindSparrow, Laura, sj, and Shir. I really appreciate it. An update: the wedding went off, mostly without a hitch, and was just beautiful. I mostly was able to compartmentalize, and mostly to have a good time. Now, I've been in my hotel doing a combination of centering, working on my cousin's virtual memorial, and weeping; this, too, is good.
I cannot say how important it was for me to have someone I could tell about this, and how valuable your support is. Thank you all.
xposted with Natter
-t - Dec 12, 2009 6:07:58 pm PST #3493 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
{{{libkitty}}} Glad the wedding went well, and that you have the space to mourn, now.
beth b - Dec 12, 2009 7:16:55 pm PST #3494 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
{{libkitty}}
DH has been on a work call since 1. if you have a little extra patience it would be appreciated
erin_obscure - Dec 12, 2009 7:31:35 pm PST #3495 of 30000
Occasionally I’m callous and strange
{{libkitty}} and all my patience~ma to beth and yr DH. My cheap white wine is of wonderful right now.
WindSparrow - Dec 12, 2009 7:32:07 pm PST #3496 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
{{{{{Libkitty}}}}}}}
{{{Beth}}}
beth b - Dec 12, 2009 7:37:06 pm PST #3497 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
I'm ok, he is having way less fun than you can imagine
WindSparrow - Dec 12, 2009 8:13:56 pm PST #3498 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
{{{{{{Matt}}}}}}
beth b - Dec 12, 2009 8:41:52 pm PST #3499 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
he's off the phone, but not happy
-t - Dec 12, 2009 9:07:40 pm PST #3500 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Poor Matt. That's way too long a phone call, and on a Saturday. Bah.