What should I do, then? Send her a gift? Sacrifice? … Unholy fruit basket?

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-t - Dec 10, 2009 5:13:29 pm PST #3192 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

That sounds painful, Hil.


Deena - Dec 10, 2009 5:40:55 pm PST #3193 of 30000
How are you me? You need to stop that. Only I can be me. ~Kara

I was going to go to bed, and then I clicked on read new, and here I am. I really appreciate this discussion very much. It reminds me of how amazing you all are. JZ said it for me, though I will add that I was surprised by the definition of magical thinking, at first. I've always described my parents' faith=prosperity ideas as magical thinking.

anytime someone offers to pray for my 'healing' (by which they usually mean praying that I'll stop undermining their belief that socially constructed norms are something that everyone can rely on forever), I get very pissed off.

Seska, I didn't feel this way until Aidan was born, and then all the people praying for him to be healed from autism and healed of albinism. I wondered... what were they thinking? I mean, really?

It's not that I don't think that God couldn't tweak his genes if he wanted to, it's just... why? He's a beautiful, happy, wonderful child who can't spend much time in the sun. He's a constant delight (he wrote a book the other day and included the author, not himself, but his favorite author, Sandra Boynton). Why would they want to make him fit in a box?

I don't do much petitional prayer. When I think of it, I stop and, instead, say thank you. My goodness, I have so much to be thankful for. I also don't know, anymore, what happens afterward. Growing up, people who smoked went to hell. Then my grandfather died. People who committed suicide went to hell, and then a church friend committed suicide. And each of those things were chipped away from my parents' beliefs, and I watched that, and wondered. I was raised to believe that depression was an evil spirit, and that masturbation causes arthritis in the hands, but bitterness/unforgiveness can cause arthritis everywhere. Thinking about that, and my health issues now... well, you can imagine what some people think I've been up to. When I think of religion and magical thinking, those are the things I think of, the weird little boxes people create to define the world, the other, the scary things.

An interesting thing is taking off in the fundamental church--meditation. In the 70s, meditation was an invitation to demon possession (as so many things were back then). You were only supposed to _actively_ think "on these things" (love joy peace, etc.) as a form of meditation. Now, 30 years later it's a new thing! Wow! We can meditate and be peaceful and it's okay with God.

And I think that many Christians are narrow-minded and incapable of seeing that more than one group, that scary other, can arrive at a truth and it be truth for them, whoever they are, and for us, whoever we are. One of my parents' (again with the parents, sorry) favorite ministers decided not that long ago that he didn't believe everyone was going to hell. Instead, he believes that everyone will go to heaven. That God is not punitive. That when Christ died for all sins it meant something. Of course, you can imagine what my parents think of him now. I find that I like him more. I'm intrigued by the idea.

And I'm going to stop there because I have no idea how long this is, but I'm betting it's not short.


smonster - Dec 10, 2009 5:47:30 pm PST #3194 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

Deena! ::tacklehugs::


erin_obscure - Dec 10, 2009 5:50:18 pm PST #3195 of 30000
Occasionally I’m callous and strange

skippity looza- ibuprofen will not interfere with my ability to clot blood/heal a cut, yes? because i seriously sliced up my thumb whilst cutting onions and it hurts like the dickens and i need to take SOMETHING soon. Dang. I've cut myself a lot, but this one REALLY hurts more than usual.


billytea - Dec 10, 2009 5:53:48 pm PST #3196 of 30000
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.

and that masturbation causes arthritis in the hands

Wow, are they ever doing that wrong.


-t - Dec 10, 2009 6:19:27 pm PST #3197 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

I don't think ibuprofen affects clotting, but I am not absolutely positive. I don't think it will keep a cut from healing, though.

Eta: OK, I googled and NSAIDS do reduce clotting and will increase bleeding after an injury. I think as long as you don't keep taking it while you are healing it wouldn't be a problem, but I obviously don't really know what I'm talking about.


amych - Dec 10, 2009 6:21:10 pm PST #3198 of 30000
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?

Y'all, I just want to say that I just read 400ish messages after not being on all day, and you people are my very favorites.

In less happy-touchy-feely news, I bashed the everloving shit out my knee for the second day in a row WITH MY OWN WEAPON. I couldn't have picked a sport with lots of padding and very little of doing things at high speed?


Steph L. - Dec 10, 2009 6:29:17 pm PST #3199 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism

NSAIDS do reduce clotting and will increase bleeding after an injury. I think as long as you don't keep taking it while you are healing it wouldn't be a problem, but I obviously don't really know what I'm talking about.

Well, the short answer is no, ibuprofen *probably* won't stop you from clotting.

The long answer is contingent on a bunch of questions. Do you take other drugs that can reduce clotting? Do you eat a lot of vitamin K-rich foods? Do you have a clotting disorder/hemophilia? Are you on your period? How much ibuprofen, and how often are you taking it?

If you aren't taking other drugs that can reduce clotting, don't eat a lot of vitamin K-rich foods, don't have a clotting disorder, and haven't been taking 800 mg of ibuprofen every 4 hours for a month, you're 99.99% going to be fine. Especially if all you're taking is 400 mg (2 OTC tablets).


-t - Dec 10, 2009 6:30:34 pm PST #3200 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Tep with the actual knowledge, score.


Steph L. - Dec 10, 2009 6:33:14 pm PST #3201 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism

I take ibuprofen like they're M&Ms, so do as I say, not as I do.