I skipped about 1000 posts recently, but I'm curious what's P-C's brother's news was? (I'm guessing the GF is moving in or getting married or something?)
In my own race adventures, I had a friend visiting from DC this weekend. He has his own life with his boyfriend out east, but he is Mexican and came back for a quinceanera party for a cousin. His family was so warm and welcoming. They were happy with my so-so Spanish and passed me plates of shrimp/crab ceviche, tortillas, pork and chiles.
It was so amazing because they are totally accepting of my friend's being gay and they were so accepting of me. It was just this awesome and unexpected experience where I met people who were so humble and welcoming.
My mother is really good about "You don't want to know."
Because, she knows if I say it, she really doesn't.
Heh. I don't even want to enter the realm of implications with my dad. I know he must assume that we have The Sex, seeing as how we've been living together for almost 3 years. But that's as far as it goes.
I think he's lonely and bored and just asks "Where were you/what were you doing?" because it's interesting to him. And he cares about my life and wants to know. But it would lead to a lot less potential memory-wiping if he could ask a general, "So what's been going on?"
Mostly, I just hate to lie to specific questions. "Where were you when I called last night?" is awfully specific. "What's been going on?" leaves a lot of room for me to tell him entertaining tales about (some of the) things I've been doing.
Or you can just go with vagueness, which is often my defense (though thankfully, my parents rarely push, as I'm unlikely to say). "sorry I didn't get your call, mustve been busy, or not heard the phone or something" "but where were you?!?" "oh, home,mostly, I guess...dunno..."
I think when he's pushed, I've defaulted to asking, with great concern, "Is something wrong? Did something happen last night? You should have called my cell phone!" At which point he laughs and says, "No, I'm just being nosy."
Dad, DON'T GO THERE. IT WILL NOT END WELL.
Aims does such concise summaries.
The GF = White Devil.
so P-C's little brother just made them aware of her existence?
so P-C's little brother just made them aware of her existence?
They found out by showing up at his apartment and finding her clothes and stuff (she doesn't live there, but has stuff there, like you do when you're dating someone with some degree of seriousness). She was not there at the time, fortunately.
I know he must assume that we have The Sex, seeing as how we've been living together for almost 3 years. But that's as far as it goes.
There is so much I don't want to share with my mother, but I will
always
win this game of chicken. I did find out from my sister that she has (finally) gotten to the point of not just accepting teh sex in my life, but hoping for more of it. Since I've never ever mentioned it to her, and rarely mention any guys to her, I don't know what she thinks my private life is actually like--I mean, do I have one or not? Because it's not like most of my shenanigans are worth calling home about.
My mother is really good about "You don't want to know."
Because, she knows if I say it, she really doesn't.
Even ita's mother knows not to click on her links (metaphorically).
