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Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Shir - Aug 17, 2010 4:01:13 am PDT #28863 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

It could have been mentioned earlier in the conversation, but I didn't read the whole thing. Anyhow, I apologize if you've been over that and already discussed it. However and strangely, I can trace in Cindy's post a flammable theme which outburst here, in another "liberal"/"touchy" issue: women at leftist demonstrations. Basically, you can read a little about it here: [link] . It also seems like there's unreported, gross sexual harassment of women and trans in demonstrations in the West Bank. There's even a course for activists to "learn how to cope with it".

Now, I'm not saying these are the same issues: an Israeli woman demonstrating in the West Bank isn't the same as a mosque next to Ground Zero. Not at all. But I recognize the same tone: what one can and cannot do, what one can be expected to be insulted for/things to be denied from (and when does it OK and justified - people who support women's right to demonstrate wearing what they want are now called and mocked as "feminists of spaghetti straps" who are willing to fight for "other people's rights" on their own terms.

All of these are important issues that we need to clarify as a whole, about "the other's" place in a liberal society. And a liberal can be a liberal under only certain terms, for certain freedoms contradict others.

And now, to another issue: people and the many ways on which they suck. Or, people and their lack of responsibility, to be precise.

As you may remember, I've been a research assistant the past year. Everything was good: I borrowed books (with my access to the library - she no longer a student here), searched for non-existent articles, same old tunes. However. Researcher went abroad with her husband, and some books were overdue. She's still abroad, and apologized for not telling me she went without returning the books I borrowed for her. Her husband is now back in Israel, and I was promised he'll get them back to me as soon as... yesterday, actually.

That was 36 hours ago. I've called him 8 times and left 2 messages. There's a fine growing here (which they said they'll pay), and I'm not sure if I can borrow other books in the meantime (I never, never had a fine or overdued a book here before). But that's not what bothers me. What bothers me is not answering my calls or getting back to me on something which is their responsibility.


WindSparrow - Aug 17, 2010 4:12:24 am PDT #28864 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

Two Lumps and Zombies: [link]


sj - Aug 17, 2010 4:16:12 am PDT #28865 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

TCG is fine, but he had a minor car accident. It's always something.


WindSparrow - Aug 17, 2010 4:17:34 am PDT #28866 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

Shir, that's crappy of the researcher and her husband. I hope you hear back from them soon. As for whether or not you can take out other books in the meantime, different libraries have different policies. Around here one of the more common policies is if the fine is under $10, then you can continue to check books out. But some places have the policy that all overdue books must be returned and all fines paid before you can check out more books.


WindSparrow - Aug 17, 2010 4:18:26 am PDT #28867 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

Glad to hear that TCG is ok, but even minor car accidents can yield major inconveniences.


Aims - Aug 17, 2010 4:29:32 am PDT #28868 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.

sj - glad he's ok! Yikes-a-roo car accidents are no bueno!!

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Maaaan....I am all sorts of worked up today. More Mosque BS on FB. I'm beginning to use the Hide button judiciously.

And one of the cats peed on my bra. Which I didn't notice til I got to work. Thankfully, I have an awesome co-worker who is lending me her shelf-bra tank top to wear.


smonster - Aug 17, 2010 4:36:25 am PDT #28869 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

Ack. Glad TCG is okay, and I hate that he was in an accident.

Cindy, as always I appreciate your thoughtfulness and self-awareness.

I am with Laura in my frustration that we waste so much time and energy on things that "should" be clearcut and simple.

Matt, thank you for sharing your thoughts. I miss seeing your pixels.


-t - Aug 17, 2010 4:39:10 am PDT #28870 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

That looks like a beautiful place to get married, sj. Congratilations!

And sorry about the accident, but I am very glad TCG is okay (and thank you for leadng with that!)


sj - Aug 17, 2010 4:42:37 am PDT #28871 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

and thank you for leadng with that

Now if I can just teach TCG to lead with that.


Steph L. - Aug 17, 2010 4:46:30 am PDT #28872 of 30000
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe

Yikes! Glad TCG is okay!