Thanks, Zenkitty. I appreciate people's answers so I can get a reality check on this thing.

When I married Stephen we had musicians and a singer, but they were arranged individually. He made all the arrangements. There was piano and organ music provided by people he knew from the church and the singer he knew from the opera. I pretty much just showed up.

Also, just because you don't play an instrument doesn't mean you can't do weddings. Plenty of people hire, for example, an organist and a singer.

Things that are annoying. Wedding RSVP cards that do not have a stamp.

Also, just because you don't play an instrument doesn't mean you can't do weddings. Plenty of people hire, for example, an organist and a singer.

And I know a cantor who plays a mean guitar and also sings, but is happy to help out other musicians and share gigs -- plus, when he has a female voice to bounce off of, the range and complexity of what he can offer musically are a lot wider.

Oh, yes - the cantor at my stepfather's funeral sang a capella, and at my mom's, he was accompanied by my old music teacher on the piano.

Things that are annoying. Wedding RSVP cards that do not have a stamp.

Yeah, I would be annoyed by that.

I want to go to Europe again. Dammit.

This is part of the family drama. This wedding is for the son of my good aunt. The son of my crazy aunt is apparently having an engagement party on the same day. although I have no official knowledge of this, just a rumour.

Yikes, Vortex.

Congrats to those with trips abroad in the bin. Travel is so exciting!

Thanks for the feedback, folks. I'm going to have to take my dad's suggestion seriously and look to see how I might possibly get into that work. Of course, the other problem is that I don't read notation...

I have another question, if folks don't mind: Is there anyone here with a disability that's been really poor and has been able to pull themselves back out of it again? I've been really poor several times due to my disability but this is the first time I haven't been able to maintain an independent home. The dysfunction of my family home is really getting to me (I'm not able to repress it the way I did when I was a minor). I need to formulate a plan on how to build enough financial stability to get out of here but I'm getting so depressed that I lose hope and don't start. I could use some advice from people who've been there before.

I need to formulate a plan on how to build enough financial stability to get out of here but I'm getting so depressed that I lose hope and don't start. I could use some advice from people who've been there before.

Spidra, insent.

Is there an option to email an rsvp, Vortex? We have that option and are thinking about not attaching stamps but including them so people could use the stamp to RSVP or for something else if they are emailing their response.