Oh, hey, happy birthday, Shir!

Spidra, sorry to hear about your grandmother. Don't feel guilty.

Teppy, continued ~ma to you and your boy.

Seriously, people, wear your seatbelt.

Yes, please. The accident I posted about a while back where the teenager died and the other young people were all very badly injured? none of them were wearing seatbelts. Most of the injuries they had were caused by being thrown from the car and hitting the pavement.

Teppy, The Boy is very lucky to have you.

G's mom has asked me if I am interested in watching G for a half day every Friday when the school year starts. I told her I would get back to her. Her school has dropped her to 4/5th's time, which means a half a days work on Fridays, but should would have to pay for a full day of daycare, which would kind of suck with her reduced salary. Must think.

continued strength and Teppy --- and an extra super secrect bonus point for not telling the Boy.

No guilt Spidra, and glad you can be there for your mom.

and sj , -- have G's mom come up with a back up plan . there are days when you'll be sick or just need them for other reasons and if there is a plan you'll feel more comfortable. Of curse, you might prefer to be the backup plan

and sj , -- have G's mom come up with a back up plan . there are days when you'll be sick or just need them for other reasons and if there is a plan you'll feel more comfortable. Of curse, you might prefer to be the backup plan

Yeah, that is what I am thinking. We have some long weekend plans already, like T's wedding when we're going to be in Dallas. I'm fairly sure if I let her know ahead of time that her mother-in-law can come visit for the weekend. And she and her hubby both work at a schools, so if the winter weather is bad enough, it's a strong possibility that one of them with have a snow day anyway.

I'm sorry for your loss, Spidra. Please don't feel guilty for feeling what you feel.

Sending coping vibes to Steph and The Boy.

I wish he would come home and sleep here tonight. I won't say that to him, because I don't want to add any more pressure to what is already more stress than should be allowed. And I wouldn't love him if he weren't the type of man who wants to stay with his dying mother.

But all the same, since it's perfectly possible for us humans to hold conflicting feelings, I wish he would come home. His other 2 brothers have gone home some nights, and I just wish he would, too.

Which makes me feel horribly selfish, like I can't think about anyone but myself, not even my partner's dying mother and grieving father. Or Tim, for that matter, since he needs to be there. And I can't even respect that.

This is so hard. I feel stupid typing that, because, DUH. But it is so, so fucking hard.

{{{{{{{{{{ Teppy }}}}}}}}}} *

Note: * : to save space, I only did 10 brackets. They go to infinity, of course. We are all here for you.

Of course, you need him too! It's not selfish- and you ARE respecting the fact that he feels like he needs to be by her side. It just has an impact on you as well, and that's OK.

{{{{{Teppy}}}}} It's not selfish for you to want him to come home. It's a terribly stressful situation for you too, and why wouldn't you want The Boy home with you? It's good that you are letting him do what he needs to do, and that isn't negated by the fact that you wish he would come home.