Teppy, My SiL the nurse translating medical stuff for me when my dad was dying was invaluable and I will be forever grateful to her for that. You just being there and running what interference you can and thinking of things like portable food for him is worth the world to The Boy.
My love for me now / Ain't hard to explain / The Hero of Canton / The man they call...ME.
Jayne ,'Jaynestown'
Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.
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Scrappy - Jul 30, 2010 8:32:52 pm PDT #27054 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Laga - Jul 30, 2010 8:41:12 pm PDT #27055 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
Every night at 9:30 I can hear the fireworks from Disneyland. But I can't see them.
beth b - Jul 30, 2010 9:12:45 pm PDT #27056 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
teppy and Nora -- sending you strength and the ability to find a little peace
-t - Jul 30, 2010 9:13:49 pm PDT #27057 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
{{{Tep}}} Being there is a lot. Really. And that fireworks moment sounds really nice. I'm glad you got it.
{{Nora}}
Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Jul 30, 2010 10:55:23 pm PDT #27058 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"
Thoughts for Teppy and Nora.
I'm tweeting from the UK Feminista 'summer school'/conference today. Hashtag is #femschool if anyone wants to follow us!
WindSparrow - Jul 31, 2010 3:05:48 am PDT #27059 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Much continued ~ma for Tom's mohter and The Boy's mother.
Much peace and comfort ~ma to Nora and Teppy.
Fred Pete - Jul 31, 2010 3:14:26 am PDT #27060 of 30000
Ann, that's a ferret.
Teppy, I was in your position when Hubs's mother was dying of cancer. You're helping in exactly the way that in-laws do best. You're taking care of the day-to-day things that have to be taken care of so the immediate family (by which I mean the blood relatives who've known Boy's mother all their lives, or all her life) can devote all their time to the situation and not have to worry about splitting their attention to get a meal or get clothes that are clean or so on. And that's very important.
Boy's job is to go crazy with concern. Doctors' job is to get Boy's mother better. Your job is support. They're all critical.
Nora Deirdre - Jul 31, 2010 3:51:22 am PDT #27061 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
Boy's job is to go crazy with concern. Doctors' job is to get Boy's mother better. Your job is support. They're all critical.
Indeed they are.
JZ - Jul 31, 2010 5:35:23 am PDT #27062 of 30000
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
{{{Teppy}}} Everything you're doing matters, just being there and loving the Boy and feeding him and loving his mom and interpreting when the doctors come with their doctor talk. It's as much as any of us can do; it's more than some people can manage.
{{{Nora}}} BTDT with the crying and the sadness that is resistant to facts and even the stop loving me so much, Mom, it just hurts worse. No solutions, only sympathy for how very much it sucks.
sj - Jul 31, 2010 5:53:20 am PDT #27063 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
{{{{{Nora}}}}} I'm so sorry you're feeling that way.