I guess since it's exclusively marketed to women, it feels to me like another slam against us. I try to keep my insults gender-neutral, like asshole, shitheel, fuckhead, etc.

my favorite is jackhole. Technically neutral, but everyone knows what it means.

Man, everything I say is offensive. I guess that's derived from...spastic? Geez, Snyder.

If you don't know the link over there, I guess it's not such a big deal. Over here, we're aware of where it came from - since it's recent, I suppose.

In other words: Hey. I'm not trying to stop people saying what they want to. I'm just saying what I find difficult to take. I used to teach linguistics. I'm careful with words.

everyone knows what it means.

A hole that leads to a rabbit's underground burrows?

(sorry)

If you don't know the link over there, I guess it's not such a big deal. Over here, we're aware of where it came from - since it's recent, I suppose.

I looked it up on Wikipedia and, yeah, there's a lot about how it's much more offensive over there than here.

Oh thank God. I was ready to cry thinking of my future 5 year old dealing with that. Sorry for not getting it.

One of Em's teacher's is gay and one of her classmates (and fellow Daisy Scout) has two mommies. If it was used a pejorative in her class by anyone, I'm sure it would get kiboshed really quick.

She was so cute the other day - we were taking a walk after dark and she was wishing on the stars and she wished for "two mommy unicorns and lots of unicorn babies". I asked her why two mommy unicorns and she said, in that 5-year-old-exasperated-why-don't-you-get-this-mom?-way, "So they can be together and have their babies."

We can't say "crazy" either?

Well, this is a personal thing. Comes from having a family member with pretty serious mental illness and having lots of those little moments where you go, "Oh shit I just called someone crazy in front of him/her."

Not sure what I would use instead of "crazy." "Illogical" is a bit too Spock.

I looked it up on Wikipedia and, yeah, there's a lot about how it's much more offensive over there than here.

Interesting. From the Wikipedia article on the use of the word 'spastic' or 'spaz' in the UK:

The current understanding of the word is well-illustrated by a BBC survey in 2003, which found that "spastic" was the second most offensive term in the UK relating to disability (retard was deemed most offensive). In 2007, Lynne Murphy, a linguist at the University of Sussex, described the term as being "one of the most taboo insults to a British ear".

Conversely, it seems that it's been in use much longer in the US, and therefore is much more divorced from its origins there.

Etymology. Cool.

I never use the word "cocksucker." To me, it carries that "being a gay man is bad because it's like being a woman" baggage....

Not to mention, people who do that (regardless of gender, and regardless of the gender of who they're doing it to) are making the world a little happier place.

Well, this is a personal thing. Comes from having a family member with pretty serious mental illness and having lots of those little moments where you go, "Oh shit I just called someone crazy in front of him/her."

Ah, yeah, that could be awkward.

Etymology. Cool.

I know! It's crazy!

...Dammit.

Not sure what I would use instead of "crazy." "Illogical" is a bit too Spock.

That is a problem. I mean, I say things are crazy or insane or nuts all the time. That is just a...thing that things are, sometimes. How else would you describe them?

How else would you describe them?

Maladaptive? Counterproductive?