The one I am trying to strike is "jerry-rigged". Especially since it is supposed to be "jury-rigged".

Before I just googled, I had no idea how common "jerry-rigged" is. It apparently arose after WWII and became one of those weird folk etymology things. I had assumed it was just bad spelling for jury-rigged, which comes from a very old word for a temporary mast. People do, sadly, also say n-word rigged, but if they say it around me once, they're quite unlikely to say it around me again.

I've eliminated "retarded" but KBD still says it (baby steps. i just got him to stop saying "gay" as a pejorative).

Now those I've been able to stop saying and raise my eyebrows when other people use them. "Gay" was easy because it's...just dumb. There isn't even any sort of etymological leg to stand on.

I still use "lame," though I try not to. I'm still dithering on "crazy," since I don't use it to describe people with actual mental illess but that's where it came from. Also, it's *deeply* ingrained.

We can't say "crazy" either? I guess I could eliminate "retarded" and "gay" easily because I could clearly see how pejorative they were to their respective groups, but I have trouble seeing "lame" and "crazy" as specifically insulting. Like you said, they're so ingrained. To me, they're just...words.

I use douchebag pretty regularly. It has become one my go-to insults surpassing "cocksucker" and "twatwaffle" in my own personal vernacular. I get how it could be seen as an anti-woman insult, but I still use it and probably will continue to do so. I do not use "retarded" or "gay", we are working on getting them out of the household vernacular, but it's been hard. (Effing five year old calling everything "gay". I blame the schools.)

I was amused that the following is a "see also" in the wikipedia entry for "jury-rig."

MacGyver in popular culture

Oh, and I usually don't cuss others. You know, the whole "I'm so weak and you can beat me up if I'll somehow upset you".

I just stare at them and let them feel bad about themsleves.

I've eliminated "retarded" but KBD still says it (baby steps. i just got him to stop saying "gay" as a pejorative).

The Boy is really good about not using insults, period. (It pisses me off sometimes. I'm such a drama queen hothead, and he's so calm and kind.) However, he will SPRINT to get away from my feminist diatribes. He doesn't even like it when I say I'm SO over Family Guy because of all the rape jokes.

He's not in favor of rape, he doesn't think rape is funny, and has never, as long as I've known him, made a rape joke. He just doesn't like my feminist explication about why I don't like Family Guy anymore.

I'm still dithering on "crazy," since I don't use it to describe people with actual mental illess but that's where it came from.

Oh, I am SO with you on this.

We can't say "crazy" either?

Can't say "insane" either, unless you're referring to the logic of trolls.

Actually, I mostly use "crazy" to refer to ideas, not people.

I wouldn't say 'lame', but I wouldn't get upset at it either. (Unlike The Girl, who takes offence on my behalf at so many of these things, the poor overwhelmed sweetheart.) Likewise crazy, since I fall into that camp, too. 'Gay', 'retarded' and 'spaz'*, though, are much closer to their etymological origins, and are words that I get angry about.

I think I said I was going back to work, before I discovered the wine. Maybe 7.40pm is finishing-studying time. Maybe there could be more wine.

*I'm told that this is widely used in the US. Not so much here. I don't like that it's starting to get imported.

Effing five year old calling everything "gay".

This breaks my heart.

Unlike The Girl, who takes offence on my behalf at so many of these things, the poor overwhelmed sweetheart.

I get way more offended at transphobic language than The Boy does. I'm just trying to protect my peeps, you know?