My whole life, I've never loved anything else.

Oz ,'Him'


Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


amych - May 19, 2010 6:13:55 pm PDT #19984 of 30000
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?

Either my sense of evil needs to be recalibrated, or that's not evil.


Barb - May 19, 2010 6:15:26 pm PDT #19985 of 30000
“Not dead yet!”

Oh jeebus. Whatever it is that's been wreaking havoc with my sinuses the last few days has moved its way into the rest of my body. I have got the worst cramps and chills and I've been so freakin' sick for the last few hours. SO do not want.


Vortex - May 19, 2010 6:21:11 pm PDT #19986 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

On a philosophical level, I'm all in favor of the natural evolution of language. But in practice, when the natural evolution of language is towards sloppier and less precise speech IT MAKES ME CRAZY WITH THE WRONGNESS.

yes, this.

I also got the Ginger body scrub, the Spreadable kind.

ooh, what brand is this, I need to exfoliate my legs like whoa.


Shir - May 19, 2010 6:51:08 pm PDT #19987 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

I think "fetish" has come to be used in the same way that "kink" is.

Could be, and could be that BDSM/other communities of human-activity-extra-ordinarium are defining for the mundanes what will be considered as "normal" or "not-normal" 20 years from now. I kindda think the same process is taking place in other places, as well, since these are high, sensitive times for Western culture.

For those not on Facebook, Fay posted there about an hour ago. So, I'll take that as good news.

Thank you. Continued health and safe~ma for all Buffistas.


Barb - May 19, 2010 7:11:27 pm PDT #19988 of 30000
“Not dead yet!”

Continued ~ma for Fay.

IMeN, someone please put me out of my misery now, please? I've got nothing left in me to give.


DavidS - May 19, 2010 7:38:56 pm PDT #19989 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

On a philosophical level, I'm all in favor of the natural evolution of language. But in practice, when the natural evolution of language is towards sloppier and less precise speech IT MAKES ME CRAZY WITH THE WRONGNESS.

Language tends to move in two different ways. A word takes a broader, more general meaning (cf., "fetish). Or a word takes on a more specific, narrower meaning. (Uh, cf., "soda" which used to be bicarbonate soda in all its forms and now means a bubbly soft drink.) It's just expanding (usually through some kind of metonymy where the particular represents the whole.) or contracting. I don't think of that as sloppiness.

I tend to be wary about talking about fetishism because people use the word sloppily. (See what I did there, Jess?) It's unpleasant banging up against other people's ill-formed notions of what that might mean, especially with something as intimate as sexuality. But my sexuality is bent off at an odd angle to societal norms. It has a kink in it, like a bent wire that is not properly grounded and is forming a circuit in an unintended way.

Certainly my bent was shaped by societal norms and cultural expectations but it was internalized. So my true north is not about my relationship to the baseline. I have a wacky compass.

And it's different from preferring brainy Jewish guys or scraped knuckles or an illiac crest. Magnetic North is always going to pull the needle in one direction for me. I can still go North by Northwest but I'm always aware of what my North is. It is not about a preference among a variety of choices. It is more the way my choices are made.


Strix - May 19, 2010 7:49:04 pm PDT #19990 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger

ooh, what brand is this, I need to exfoliate my legs like whoa.

Vortex, it's Origins, and the smell is amazing. The body souffle is quite lovely, too. Hydrating without being greasy.

When I worked at the Lancome counter at Dillard's in grad school, the Origins counter was right by, and my best friend worked there. We got a lot of freebies.

Origins has wonderful body and face care products, although their daily moisturizers don't have SPF. From Origins, I would rec the Ginger Souffle, the Incredible Spreadable Ginger scrub, Night-A-Mins night facial treatment and the Skin Diver mask w/ charcoal. Check them out at Origins.com.

Are you in Boston, Vortex? There's an Origin's store in Harvard Square.


Vortex - May 19, 2010 9:25:39 pm PDT #19991 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

Are you in Boston, Vortex? There's an Origin's store in Harvard Square.

Nope, DC. I can probably get it at Macy's or summat, right?


Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - May 19, 2010 10:32:08 pm PDT #19992 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"

Love how the kink discussion moved into a linguistic one. Language change is fascinating (but I also like terms that are usefully specific).

I'd be tempted to document this and file a complaint after everything is over.

I would, too. That's unacceptable.


Shir - May 20, 2010 12:38:19 am PDT #19993 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

Buffistas who love English, a hivemind of your time:

Any recommendations on a GOOD Early Modern English dictionary?

Signed,
She who have to read tons of pages from the late 17th century (hey, it's fun).