Oh, and also? Much safe-ma to Fay. I am worried about her.

I think I've seen handcuffs in enough romance novels that they don't really seem too far out of the ordinary.

What is generally accepted as fetish is something not specifically sexual that a person needs in order to achieve sexual arousal or climax.

I'm not trying to bust out with a prescriptive vs. descriptive battle, but I just don't believe that that definition is, as you say, "generally accepted" anymore.

I think "fetish" has come to be used in the same way that "kink" is.

I know what "fetish" is supposed to mean; it started life as your definition, certainly. But I don't hear it used that way any more.

Hey, can someone tell me what "Lovely Lady Humps" are?

This is really all I've got [link] on lady humps. I always wondered how Daleks stayed so smooth and shiny. Now I know - a good wax job.

so, the question is, are "lady lumps" and "lady humps" the same thing?

If you're a Dalek, yes.

I think I've seen handcuffs in enough romance novels that they don't really seem too far out of the ordinary.

I've gotta start reading something besides Regency Romances.

I've gotta start reading something besides Regency Romances.

There was a scene with handcuffs in "Welcome to Temptation" by Jennifer Crusie, and it was implied that the character uses them frequently -- his girlfriend in the book found them behind his bed, and then later, his best friend, the sheriff, told him to buy some of his own and stop stealing the police ones. I could just about swear that one of the Vicki Lewis Thompson books had a handcuff scene, too, but I can't remember which book or where.

One thing having Owen has done was make me stop using the word "normal." We use "typical" in its place because normal and abnormal have negative connotations for us. Owen's atypical but "normal" for him.

I'm not wading into kink because my kink varies. I'm on the Kinsey scale--my needle swings wide.

I'm on the Kinsey scale--my needle swings wide.

Heh. My first thought on reading this? "Oooh, needles!"

Today was a tiring day. I really should do laundry tonight, but I don't have the energy.

I'm not trying to bust out with a prescriptive vs. descriptive battle

Bring it, bitca!!

but I just don't believe that that definition is, as you say, "generally accepted" anymore.

Oh, I certainly agree that it's used kind of interchangeably with kink; I'm just saying those people are WRONG, and I am RIGHT!

Heh.

Seriously, I'm just happy that people are talking and exploring different modes of expressing sexuality, and, even though more openness still needs to be brought to sexuality in general, a lot of movement has been made towards a more accepting mindset.

GO TEAM SEXY TALK

There was a scene with handcuffs in "Welcome to Temptation" by Jennifer Crusie, and it was implied that the character uses them frequently -- his girlfriend in the book found them behind his bed, and then later, his best friend, the sheriff, told him to buy some of his own and stop stealing the police ones.

What interests me is that not only is the guy apparently into handcuffs, but it seems he somehow manages to wear them out.