OK. I also stand behind what JZ just said.

I just don't understand this.

Almost every man I met who studied Men's studies showed how patriarchy did and does wrong to men as well as to women.

This may also be a difference between US and non-US academic culture -- it's absolutely true that there's legitimate study to be done of gender issues from all sides. It's just that the specific history of the phrase in the US context is more closely tied to a not-really-academic but rather conservative-punditry-driven movement to say that the white straight guys are being oppressed and excluded from the discourse (and, frankly, also to a lot of hyperprivileged knobwanks saying "Women's studies? Oh yeah? Well WHAT ABOUT MEN'S STUDIES? Huh? Have you thought about the mens?" as if they were saying something incredibly funny and original).

Lots of ~ma for Anne and for Sox.

I've got no opinion on the male symposium thing because as has already been mentioned, could be good, could be bad. Who knows? I will say, that with my cynic's attitude, the likelihood that something useful will come out of it doesn't seem particularly high.

Also, Spotted Dog and The Enforcer are pure unadulterated WIN.

wrod. And, dudes, have you ever tried listening? I would have a lot more respect for male feminists if the ones I've met who did not post here did not have to be first in line in every conversation, derailing perfectly cromulent conversations with, like, purity tests, and some kind of sexist nonsense Some Other Guy pulled on his wife, or the chronic trauma of being told to "man up" on the playground. To understand what it's like being a woman most of the time? It helps to play second banana. The next guy that does this, I'm going to tell to look pretty and make me a sandwich.

This may also be a difference between US and non-US academic culture

Could be.

The next guy that does this, I'm going to tell to look pretty and make me a sandwich.

Yes, that doesn't mean I agree with all of the men who studies it. A lot of times, when I'm taught about feminism from Great White Prof., I have to hold myself down not to reply with "oh yeah? We're depressed? Good to know. How about giving me 1/3 of your salary, just to make things more even, for starters?".

Yeah, I'm gonna stick with "boo fucking hoo."

That's been crystal clear since the beginning of feminism, and it was a large, loud part of mainstream feminist discourse by the 70s when the Steinem crowd and Ms. Magazine rose to prominence.

Then why do you call it FEMinsm, huh? Shouldn't it be HUMANISM??!?!?!

Which is right up there with "Then it shouldn't be the NAACP!"

Is it my job to teach you history? To shove you in a wayback machine and show you the world when these movements began? Or should I just be happy that they've been successful enough that these questions are askable and get the eff out of Salon letters?

@@ forever at MRA people. Also, men who tell me I don't have to wear makeup and heels and that I'm enabling my own oppression when I do, so I must not really be a feminist.

derailing perfectly cromulent conversations with, like, purity tests, and some kind of sexist nonsense Some Other Guy pulled on his wife, or the chronic trauma of being told to "man up" on the playground. To understand what it's like being a woman most of the time? It helps to play second banana.

There are many things about how women have been (and are) treated that just have baffled me from even when I was a kid. I remember reading as a kid and finding out that women had only had the vote for around 50 years at that time. I basically went "wait, what?"

As far as "Some Other Guy" syndrome, I've always considered myself something of a male feminist, but even I know that there's times I do stupid sexist stuff reflexivly. It's sort of akin to being a recovering alcoholic (metaphorically, at least), its situational conditioning and will probably never be completely gone.

I don't think I'll ever totally understand the female perspective, but that doesn't mean I'll stop trying.

It's sort of akin to being a recovering alcoholic (metaphorically, at least), its situational conditioning and will probably never be completely gone.

Some of my female friends make it a point to try to break me of that conditioning. Sometimes with success -- "A gentleman always holds a door for a lady" has become "Whoever gets to the door first makes sure it doesn't close in anyone's face." Sometimes taking advantage of other circumstances -- "When walking down the street with a lady who's nearly deaf in her left ear, a gentleman walks on her right and doesn't worry about who's next to the curb."