I just had the best lobster roll for lunch. (Okay, probably not *the best* given that I am not currently in Maine. But for midtown Manhattan it was pretty darn good.)

Oooh! Where, Jessica?

Every time he comments that he backs up his wife(Really, yay!) or does something gross for his kiddos, a platoon of admiring feminists tells him he's a sweet guy

Gah. I hate this. If it's your own kid, YOU AREN'T "BABYSITTING"!!!

Oooh! Where, Jessica?

Do you know where Silo is on 53rd/3rd? Across the lobby from there is this little hole in the wall (literally - it's about the size of a freight elevator) kiosk that sells lobster rolls w/ a side salad for $10. Not something I can afford every day, but this week I needed a treat.

I love getting bacon and eggs over easy, and using the bacon to dip in the yolk. And the leftover yolk makes great moppings for toast.

Yes. Please. Now.

If it's your own kid, YOU AREN'T "BABYSITTING"!!!

NO!!! Holy hell, I hate that. You can't babysit your OWN kids. That's called parenting.

Hmm. That is definitely an interesting point, Erica. It's something that, in more nebulous form, has been on my mind.

I find myself guilty of it; if Dan puts the dishes in the dishwasher or something, I totally lavish him with praise (to try to get him to do it more.)

Now, I have been out-of-work, and doing the housework as part of my household contribution to our partnership, since I wasn't bringing in any money; I was cool with it. Now that I am working, I think we'll institute a "Whoever doesn't cook, cleans within a day" rule, and I'll do most of the cleaning on the weekends. He's pretty good; if he sees me sweeping or dusting or de-furring, he'll starts to do a chore, too.

But, yeah, I am the instigator on it.

Do you know where Silo is on 53rd/3rd? Across the lobby from there is this little hole in the wall (literally - it's about the size of a freight elevator) kiosk that sells lobster rolls w/ a side salad for $10. Not something I can afford every day, but this week I needed a treat.

Ooooh! Sort of like Burger Joint at Le Parker Meridian? I love nummy food that hides.

I am going to hunt this down like a dog.

He's better than that, but still? If I read just one more sensitive male taking over women's space writing about how he was traumatized for life when(Dad, his coach, Drill Sargeant Gunny) told him to man up when he was hurting, I think there might be a rampage in my future. Because, guys, we love you(some of us *like that* some of us as a friend, but feminism isn't all about how you fit in, and you you can escape being your asshole father(if you have an asshole father) Do we have to help you with everything? I used to feel supported when they did that, now I think it wouldn't hurt most men to play second banana once in a while, not that I'm going to get a cute little Aussie assistant and watch him pick up stuff I drop or anything. I have no desire to be Donna Draper.

DH is so much better about keeping the house in order than I am that I feel he deserves my lavish praise. (When I'm home alone, I pretty much just fuck around on the internet all day. When he's home alone, he cleans the bathrooms and vaccums the rugs and does all the laundry and changes lightbulbs and stuff. He's a way better wife than I am. OTOH, he thinks of it as making up for the fact that I do all the cooking, but the thing is I love doing all the cooking. Nobody tell, k?)

Parenting wise, we split things up pretty evenly. When we don't it's because Dylan is in a Daddy-only or Mommy-only phase and then we just deal with that until he swings back the other way.

Oops, I had an extra 3 in there - it's 50th/3rd. Here's the Yelp page:

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(Linking to Silo because I don't know the name of the lobster roll place. But it's right at the bottom of the escalator and has a sign with a lobster on it, so pretty hard to miss.)