Daniel, WTF? He sends that email to your supervisor without even speaking to you first? He takes PHOTOS under your desk? And you've been picking up other people's trash all this time? You were too nice. At least request that they move the communal trash can somewhere else since people can't seem to be bothered to actually get their trash in it. Seriously, man. That's harassment. grrrrr

I once had an upper-level person decide that my department was responsible for a mess of papers left scattered around the conference room; he came to me and snapped something about my getting there and cleaning it up right away. I went in, cleaned up the mess, then went to him with an armload of papers and asked what I should do with them ... yeah, passive-aggressive, but in that instance it worked.

Daniel, could you put something - like a draft-excluder - under your desk to block the trash sifting in? Maybe if TPTB spotted piles of trash on the other side of the cube wall they might crack down on the people with bad aim?

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Daniel, could you put something - like a draft-excluder - under your desk to block the trask sifting in? Maybe if TPTB spotted piles of trash on the other side of the cube wall they might crack down on the people with bad aim?

I like this plan. A lot.

Checking in, as requested.

Doctor was not at all Dr. McJudgey-Pants. The very first thing he said was, "This is brain chemistry and NOTHING you did in raising her." In fact, he has ADHD. He was very impressed with her printing abilities and her spelling.

But, bottom line is that she does have ADHD. Joe and I made the choice to start off on a very low dose of medication and build up to a dose that helps her in school and hopefully learn how to focus and control her behaviors, and see how it goes from there. I'm still a bit apprehensive about medicating a 5 year old, and Doc didn't push for it either way and actually gave us quite a few pieces of literature on behavior modification and stuff to supplement the medication.

Of course, as she;s ringing the backdoor bell INCESSANTLY RIGHT NOW AND WILL NOT STOP, I'm tempted to give her all 30 days worth right now.

So there's that.

Knowing when she's young is better. ADHD in young girls is often missed.

You and Joe are good parents, Aims; you'll be able to watch her bx and see what works for her, and what doesn't. You just want Em to be happy and well, and you're doing the best that you can to ensure it.

I'm glad the dr. was nice.

I'm glad y'all know, Aims. It seems like it will so much easier, for you and for her, to know so young, however you decide to help her cope.

Eta: also glad that the doc was nice, he sounds like a good 'un

Aims, so glad that the doctor was knowledgeable and non-judgy. And if you want any opinions or perspective from a former kid with ADD, you've got my IM.

And, speaking of ADD, I cleaned up my apartment a bit. It's still obviously a mess, but I picked up all the dirty clothes from the floor and put them in the laundry basket, and I vacuumed so that the carpet looks a bit less grody.

Yay, Aims, glad the doc was sympathetic!

Frankly, I am a very fat man, skinny ex-military types are likely to think I'm that much of a slob.

Yup. I fucking hate the conclusions people jump to based on someone's weight. It's bullshit. And I agree with putting something to block the trash stream from the can on the other side of the cube wall.

I'm still a bit apprehensive about medicating a 5 year old

Well, you can always give it a shot and then decide to stop the medication. It's not an irreversible decision. I hope, for all of your sakes, though, that it helps.

Also, if you want/need more info on ADHD stuff, we have a ton of it (since The Boy is both an autodidact and on the board of the local ADD support group), and I can certainly pass info on or at least point you in the right direction.

I tell you guys what, the saving grace (for lack of a better phrase) has been that I know so many awesome, smart, functioning, wonderful people with ADD or ADHD. It really helps alleviate the fears and concerns you know?

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