That all sounds so wonderful, Stephanie! Good to read.
Yes, it's terribly simple. The good guys are always stalwart and true, the bad guys are easily distinguished by their pointy horns or black hats, and, uh, we always defeat them and save the day. No one ever dies, and everybody lives happily ever after.
Giles ,'Conversations with Dead People'
Delurking 1: Because we don't always check our e-mail.
-t - Oct 22, 2014 5:37:15 pm PDT #2453 of 3094
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
meara - Oct 22, 2014 7:30:08 pm PDT #2454 of 3094
Mabelle, I love my commune. It actually has freed me to date, even if the date is not a dude I want to marry/help raise my kids. My kids are doing great, I have lots of fun and company at home, and dating is just for fun.
That sounds awesome! I want my sister to make a commune, she's joked about it, but not in Indiana.
Zenkitty - Oct 23, 2014 3:05:14 am PDT #2455 of 3094
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
I kinda want a commune house. The next house I buy will probably be a split bedroom design so that I can ideally share with a single female friend.
Me too! It sounds wonderful. My BFF and I have talked seriously about buying a house with two master suites or something that we can share. In Nashville, I had a big house, and there were always three or four people living with me, and I liked it. We were all introverts, so it worked. I like living alone, but it does get lonely. And scary, sometimes.
Calli - Oct 23, 2014 4:20:25 am PDT #2456 of 3094
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
I kinda want a commune house. The next house I buy will probably be a split bedroom design so that I can ideally share with a single female friend.
I have a friend who formed a co-housing community with her friends that's pretty communal. They're all around retirement age but not ready for a retirement home. And they're all over yard work and cleaning gutters. So they designed and built (via contractor) an apartment building with a bunch of handicapped accessible one-bedroom apartments, each with a small kitchen and balcony. There's also a larger communal kitchen, several bed/bath spaces that they can reserve for visitors, gaming and hang-out areas, etc. It's near a bus hub and in a walkable part of town, as well as near a hospital. It's all very deliberate and well considered. I wouldn't mind doing something like that.
Jesse - Oct 23, 2014 4:22:13 am PDT #2457 of 3094
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Yeah, that sounds like a dream to me!
msbelle - Oct 23, 2014 4:34:09 am PDT #2458 of 3094
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
Adult dorm, man. That is what I want.
-t - Oct 23, 2014 4:34:53 am PDT #2459 of 3094
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
I would love that.
Tom Scola - Oct 23, 2014 4:46:53 am PDT #2460 of 3094
Mr. Scola’s wardrobe by Botany 500
Calli - Oct 23, 2014 4:47:01 am PDT #2461 of 3094
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
I hung out with my cohousing friend for half an hour and someone came by asking her over for wine and someone else dropped by to suggest a movie. The whole "lonely old person" is definitely not a thing for her. It seems pretty much perfect. If my current apartment a) had communal spaces and b) went condo, it would be pretty similar.
ETA: Thanks, Tom. My friend's place is here: [link]
Jesse - Oct 23, 2014 4:53:49 am PDT #2462 of 3094
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
My parents have a group of friends currently aging in place in the 10-unit building they bought 40 years ago. Aside from the lack of elevator, it's pretty sweet.