If I am in a group, say, of 5 or 6 people, I'm going to hug all of them or none of them (if they're coming to me for hugs). I am not usually a touchy/feely person, but I would hate to be the one person left off of someone's "hug list" during such an occurrence, I wouldn't think that person had boundary issues, having seen her/him hug everyone else in the group; I'd think they just really didn't like me.

You're absolutely right -- it would be notable in a group that small (although the truth this that I *don't* like some people). However, in a situation like tonight's dinner, there will be at least 30 people there, if not more, some of whom I barely know. Surely not everyone hugs everyone else when there's that many people. (Or, perhaps what I mean is, surely it's not *expected* that everyone hug everyone else, given the varying levels of knowing/not-knowing people.)

I often look like a jackass by comparison because The Boy accepts hugs from everyone who flings themselves at him with outstretched arms.

t edit And my boundary issues exist w/r/t other people -- I'm more comfortable with some people than others. I can't help being uncomfortable with, for instance Creepy Eyefucky Inappropriate Comment Guy, or Thinks It's Okay To Give Unasked-For Massages Guy. Them I don't want to hug -- their standard of behavior crosses my boundaries before hugs ever enter the equation. People who DON'T comment on my boobs out of the blue and who DON'T tell me they'd like to fuck my boyfriend are generally not violating my boundaries and therefore are welcome to a hug.

What should I have for lunch? All courtesy of Trader Joe's:

• Turkey and dressing sandwich
• California rolls
• Nicoise salad

Nicoise salad.

People who DON'T comment on my boobs out of the blue and who DON'T tell me they'd like to fuck my boyfriend are generally not violating my boundaries and therefore are welcome to a hug.

Wow, you have high standards for who you'll hug! t /sarcastic

What I mean to say is, you know some inappropriate people.

Turkey and dressing sandwich

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My boss takes 2 vacations, and I can't be gone when she is gone. She doesn't discourage me from vacations, but when I come back to her writing me up, it makes me not want to leave at a time when my work nemisis is not also on vacation.

Will you have whatever you don't choose for lunches later this week? If so, I'd go for the California rolls, as I suspect they'd suffer most from languishing in the fridge for a day or two.

Thinks It's Okay To Give Unasked-For Massages Guy

So George W. Bush is right out.

Will you have whatever you don't choose for lunches later this week?

Yes

If so, I'd go for the California rolls, as I suspect they'd suffer most from languishing in the fridge for a day or two.

Good point, though the turkey and dressing sandwich is kinda calling my name...

However, in a situation like tonight's dinner, there will be at least 30 people there, if not more, some of whom I barely know. Surely not everyone hugs everyone else when there's that many people.

Yeah, either way, it wouldn't be as noticable. And I wouldn't hug the creepy people you describe, either!