Buffy ,'Same Time, Same Place'
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"Drinking alcohol" should not be considered the default condition of a human.
That's my thinking too, even though I pretty much assume it is anyway. But usually when I tell people I don't drink, they just accept it.
my love of the plain daquiri.
Heh. I was in CVS yesterday, and I passed this teenage girl reading a shopping list or something with her mother. "'Dye-keery,'" she read. "What's that?"
People might not drink for so many reasons, though. Health, and/or medication, just to name a few.
It strikes me as unbelievably rude that someone you don't even know would *demand* an explanation, too.
To some drinkers it is though. I have (ex)friends who only socialize over drinks. It is their main activity outside of work and home and they always make a weird deal out of people 1) not drinking 2) having only one or two drinks.
That's just weird. I would have to figure out what else to do with someone if they didn't want to go to a bar, but I don't care what they do while we're there!
I am baffled by non-drinkers who have never been drinkers, I will admit. I have a hard time computing.
Yeah, I once started talking with a guy after a movie, and, when I suggested we stop for a drink, his first response was "I don't drink." Thanks to my crazy aunt, I immediately responded "Anything?" But the assumption was that I meant alcohol (when I didn't).
When I gave up drinking for Lent a number of people felt the need to comment. The rest just assumed I was pregnant.
A question for people who drink: how unusual do you think it is for someone not to drink? I met a guy at a meetup a week ago, and when I told him I didn't drink, I got this response:
I think the better question might be--was this guy raised by wolves? There are dozens of reasons people might not drink, starting with "I just don't want to" and going from there, and not one of them is any business of someone you just met.
I think the better question might be--was this guy raised by wolves? There are dozens of reasons people might not drink, starting with "I just don't want to" and going from there, and not one of them is any business of someone you just met.
Exactly!
For people with an alcohol problem of some sort, people who don't drink are threatening. They tell themselves that everyone cares about drinking as much as they do, so someone who doesn't can really freak them out.
I have been literally yelled at for not drinking. Not for talking about drinking or anything annoying, but for refusing a drink at a party and when the person urged me to take it, saying "I don't drink but it looks delicious." They then told me I was a freak who didn't know how to have fun.
I am baffled by non-drinkers who have never been drinkers
I can understand not liking the sensation of being drunk or tipsy, or liking the taste of alcohol. I can't understand never having tried it unless there had been a religious or health proscription--how do you define having been a drinker?
At university I plain didn't understand non-drinkers. My sister had been taking wine with dinner since she was 8 or so. But then again, I didn't get vegetarians either.
When I gave up drinking for Lent a number of people felt the need to comment. The rest just assumed I was pregnant.
Ha! Me too. Especially the rugby boys.