Hive mind: If I was looking for a Transformer onesie for an impending great-nephew, where would I look?

On the relationship stuff, I just read an article about the guy who shot up the aerobics class in Philly. He was angry cause he couldn't get a date and hadn't had sex in several years.

I could be that guy, except for being a woman and not blaming all men for the fact that I don't date and haven't had sex in a long time.

And I too, agree with all this:

I would love to find a partner, but I don't want to devote any time to it, so it is unlikely to happen. I've never really understood why friends don't set each other up more, but at least here it doesn't seem to happen much. I don't do it, so why would I expect my friends too?

The other way I often think about it is, I really don't like a lot of people. I don't make friends that easily and I am regularly appalled at peoples' behavior. So, it's clear to me I don't want most people. Like Scrappy said, I want just the one person and the trick is probably going to be not be shut off to the opportunity when it is presented.

That sounds great, Kathy!

That kitchen above makes me want to ick the screen. If I ever buy a house, an unremodeled kitchen is probably what is going to sell it to me.

I sometimes say one of the things that I like about J is that he is a true man. In my case, I mean as opposed to a boy, in that he is responsible and supportive and dependable.

"Don't be a guy, Lloyd. Be a man."

I kinda' like the phrase "man-up," but that pretty much just means "be an adult and take responsibility for your actions," right?

What does it mean when a woman's profile says she wants a "real man"?

Cis?

Can I just say how much I adore you, Jesse, for saying this? :) Even *I* didn't immediately have that joke pop into mind!

Also, my friends pretty much never set people up with each other per se, but I'm all ABOUT meeting people through friends. And even occasionally deliberately making sure certain friends are going to be at group events at the same time. Which is not quite what msbelle was meaning, I don't think...

people agreeing with me. WHOOT? It's like we share outlooks on this life thing. imagine.

Also, my friends pretty much never set people up with each other per se, but I'm all ABOUT meeting people through friends. And even occasionally deliberately making sure certain friends are going to be at group events at the same time. Which is not quite what msbelle was meaning, I don't think...

Perhaps not, but IME much more successful than actual set-ups.

I kinda' like the phrase "man-up," but that pretty much just means "be an adult and take responsibility for your actions," right?

In the same way that "mensch" is a gendered term. But I don't think that's necessarily bad. It's not postulating that that being manly is better than being effeminate - it's just having a positive ideal of masculinity.

Dude, dating is hard. That's probably why I don't do it.

If I hadn't gotten all kissy with a good friend, I wouldn't be in a relationship right now. I *loathe* dating. I prefer to convert an existing friendship into L-U-V.

What does it mean when a woman's profile says she wants a "real man"?

I don't like those women and I'm not sure why my first instinct is to say it means "Treat me like shit and I'll follow you anywhere."

I agree with erika. I always read "I want a 'real man'" as code for "I want a big, macho asshole who makes all my friends pea-green with envy because he's such a gym-ripped specimen of manflesh, despite the fact that he has the emotional maturity of a potato and has apparently never even HEARD of cunnilingus."

But that could just be me.

I see a lot of requests from men that state that they "don't want any drama" and "no games."

I have no idea what that means, either.

"I want strings-free sex from you and no whining accusations about how I haven't called you in 2 weeks."