It gives the truly bitter a reason to live. They need the bile and the drama as sustenance.
This is my family's raison d'etre. Seriously, the people in my family aren't truly happy unless someone is feuding and not speaking with someone else. It's exhausting and totally not my thing, which is one reason I've chosen to live away from the family cluster the entirety of my adult life.
And in that vein, my sister called last night, absolutely infuriated (which, it doesn't happen often, but when it does, it's pretty fearsome). Our aunt (Mom's younger sister) was recently diagnosed with colon cancer. Because she's a bit of a flake, she kept putting off getting a traditional diagnosis and when she did get a diagnosis that pointed at colon cancer, refused to believe it and would go trotting off to another doctor, hoping for a different diagnosis without sharing that she'd already been to doctors one, two, three, four, et al. At any rate, she wound up in the hospital for emergency surgery and they discovered, unsurprisingly, that the cancer had progressed to Stage IV.
That's just the background. The surgery was about two months ago and now, her daughter, who is in her own way, an even bigger flake, apparently sent her mother an email saying that after hours spent meditating at the bottom of the pool, she had come to the decision that she couldn't "cope" with her mother's disease.
Cope? What coping? She's been to see her mother all of three or four times in the four months since the surgery and they live in the same fucking city! I mean, my aunt was never anyone's idea of Mother of the Year--she was widowed very, very young and spent a lot of years very angry and bitter about it and kind of unfairly took out her anger on my cousin, but at the same time, she gave everything she possibly could to my cousin who grew up with this whacked out sense of entitlement all based around the fact that since she grew up without a father the world owed her, I don't know... everything.
But still... it's her mother and I can't believe this pseudo-mystical mumbo-jumbo she's spouting about not being able to cope.