I hope I didn't say anything too stupid on the phone. I honestly had no idea what to say, but I did promise her that I would keep calling her once a week.
My love for me now / Ain't hard to explain / The Hero of Canton / The man they call...ME.
Jayne ,'Jaynestown'
Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
sj - Mar 13, 2009 8:41:57 am PDT #3459 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
sj - Mar 13, 2009 8:43:58 am PDT #3460 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
DJ, I'm sorry about the family craziness and tons of ~ma to your cousin.
Daisy Jane - Mar 13, 2009 8:44:24 am PDT #3461 of 30000
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
I hope I didn't say anything too stupid on the phone. I honestly had no idea what to say, but I did promise her that I would keep calling her once a week.
I don't think there is any right thing to say (and I'm sure you didn't say anything unkind, so I'm willing to bet you didn't say anything "wrong"). The only thing I can ever think to say in the face of news like that is a variation on "That really sucks. I'll be here for you in any way I can."
sj - Mar 13, 2009 8:46:28 am PDT #3462 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Thanks, DJ. I heard that she had taken a turn for the worse from a mutual friend, so I had to reassure her that I was in no way upset with her for not telling me a few times. I think I am going to send a letter to her and her husband as well. They've been very good to me over the years.
SailAweigh - Mar 13, 2009 9:27:14 am PDT #3463 of 30000
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb
So sorry, sj. Fuck cancer and ass it in the ear to boot.
Sean K - Mar 13, 2009 9:30:42 am PDT #3464 of 30000
You can't leave me to my own devices; my devices are Nap and Eat. -Zenkitty
FUCK CANCER!
Ginger - Mar 13, 2009 9:40:06 am PDT #3465 of 30000
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
Fuck cancer, indeed. I hope she's gotten several opinions, because there are drugs that can vastly slow the growth of some types of metastasized breast cancer.
There is no right thing to say, except, as DJ says, variations on "that sucks" and avoiding any possible implication that there are any blessings in disguise involved. Tell her she can vent about anything to you, because sometimes you want to complain, but not to the people who see you all the time.
sj - Mar 13, 2009 9:41:45 am PDT #3466 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Fuck cancer, indeed. I hope she's gotten several opinions, because there are drugs that can vastly slow the growth of some types of metastasized breast cancer.
Thanks, Ginger. She's been fighting for three years, and from what I heard the cancer has just spread too far at this point. I believe she has had very good doctors.
beth b - Mar 13, 2009 9:46:01 am PDT #3467 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
fuck cancer, indeed!
and a serious frown in the general direction of family drama
Volans - Mar 13, 2009 10:05:28 am PDT #3468 of 30000
move out and draw fire
Fuck cancer!
I think in protest we should have the zodiac sign changed.
Is Pi Day today?
Is tomorrow, but is no work tomorrow (yay), so pi today. Me and a co-worker teamed up on our contributions: I made a pie with the top crust looking like the Aperture Science logo, and he wrote "The cake is a lie" in frosting on his pie.