It's because you didn't have a strong father figure isn't it?

Joyce ,'Chosen'


Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


amych - Nov 10, 2009 12:35:18 pm PST #29929 of 30000
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?

Guess which one will get prioritised?

Procrastinating on the internets, if you're anything like me when faced with competing deadlines.


Vortex - Nov 10, 2009 12:42:02 pm PST #29930 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

I bought what I thought was a pork roast this weekend. Turns out that it was "picnic sliced". So, I have five big slabs of pork, kind of like ham steaks. I will sautee one of those tonight, deglaze the pan with some apple cider from the farmers market, and serve with the aforementioned applesauce. Hmm, I have some fresh ginger, maybe I'll grate some into the apples along with the cinnamon. I wonder if I have any star anise, that would be great, too.


Hil R. - Nov 10, 2009 12:43:22 pm PST #29931 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

I am still trying to post my paper on arxiv. To post, I need approval from someone who already has a certain number of papers up. There is only one person in my department who meets the requirement. So I asked him, and he said he would, but he keeps asking me to explain why my advisor can't do it, and he won't do it until my advisor says it's OK, and my advisor is not answering emails.


-t - Nov 10, 2009 12:53:42 pm PST #29932 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Oy, Hil. Someday that place will be entirely behind you and you will have all new obstacles. Whatever those may be, at least they won't be this advisor.


Vortex - Nov 10, 2009 12:57:37 pm PST #29933 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

So I asked him, and he said he would, but he keeps asking me to explain why my advisor can't do it, and he won't do it until my advisor says it's OK, and my advisor is not answering emails.

Oh, I've been here, as the professor asked to do it. I know that you are in a bad position (and totally legit in your request), but I've been burned by shady students trying to do an end run around requirements through my kindness.

Will the advisor answer emails from his colleague?


Hil R. - Nov 10, 2009 12:57:47 pm PST #29934 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

Is it really too much to expect that if I send an "Are we meeting at our usual time on Wednesday?" email early Monday afternoon, that I should get a response sometime before Tuesday night? It's not like this is a difficult question to answer. Options are "yes," "no," and "I need to figure out my schedule, so I'll get back to you by _____ and let you know."


Rick - Nov 10, 2009 12:59:36 pm PST #29935 of 30000

he keeps asking me to explain why my advisor can't do it, and he won't do it until my advisor says it's OK, and my advisor is not answering emails.

Can you e-mail your Chair or Director of Graduate training about the problem, not in a mean way, but "my advisor is not currently available and I need to load these things as part of my job search." They may be able to provide enough permission to bypass your advisor.

I'm the director of a graduate program, and I get requests like this all the time. Faculty are flaky. It's expected.


Vortex - Nov 10, 2009 12:59:42 pm PST #29936 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

ARGH! Faculty often suck. And once they have tenure, there isn't a damned thing you can do about it. sometimes I think we should get rid of it, but then I remember all of the cutting edge research and theory that might not have moved forward if people had been afraid for their jobs.


Hil R. - Nov 10, 2009 1:00:05 pm PST #29937 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

Oh, I've been here, as the professor asked to do it. I know that you are in a bad position (and totally legit in your request), but I've been burned by shady students trying to do an end run around requirements through my kindness.

Yeah, I know. I forwarded him an email from my advisor where my advisor said that he would endorse it if he could, and I told this professor that he could ask my advisor about it if he wanted, but that my advisor hasn't been answering my emails lately so I'm not sure how to get in touch with him.

Will the advisor answer emails from his colleague?

I have no idea.


Vortex - Nov 10, 2009 1:01:43 pm PST #29938 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

Oh, I wasn't clear when you said that he hadn't been answering emails. I really should have said will the colleague email him and see if it's okay? He might answer an email from a colleague where he wouldn't answer yours.