I never played at princess, wise woman or mermaid. I mostly played spaceship captain or Doctor Who's assistant.

But the relationship between you and your advisor has grown too toxic for you to keep working in it. So go around him.

I did this with my supervisor (=advisor) for my MA dissertation. She's nice enough, but we had serious clashes of both personality and academic interest. I ended up asking the head of my course to be my second supervisor. I only saw the course head a couple of times, but it was enough to help. Hil, can you do something similar?

Also, Hil, I'd be happy to look at your teaching statement. I've mostly taught at the high school level, but I have a small amount of college-level teaching experience. And I've written many a teaching statement. Profile addy works.

In other academic news, I was awake half the night in a panic about whether I can finish my research and writing up in the four weeks that I have. It's only this morning that I've remembered some 'cheats' that will help a lot, including recycling other papers to some extent. What is it about night-time and these things? Weirdness.

Hil, I would strongly advise you to find another professor that you can work with on your writing, even if you don't officially switch advisors. But the relationship between you and your advisor has grown too toxic for you to keep working in it. So go around him.

An idea occurred to me last night - what if you got that article that you wanted to post all polished up without waiting on the advisor, then sent him an email that says, "Here it is. I know you are busy and do not always have time to reply, so I'm going to post it on ___ day. If you have any suggestions, etc. please get back to me before then." Then just forge blithely ahead without him. When he complains that he did not want you to post it without his approval, you say, 'oh but you did approve - after all, if there were a real problem, you would have gotten back to me before I posted it, as per the email dated the ____."

Of course, I thought that up just before my fever broke last night, so take it for what you will.

Nora, I'm sorry about your aunt. And I hope the cancer is a type and stage that can be dealt with quickly and without too much trauma.

Okay, woke up with this in my head and I have to get it out there.

It's a filk.

I KNOW, right?

Anyway...

Elric the pasty emo
Had white skin and crimson eyes
And if you ever met him
You would see how much he cries
All of the other Imrryr
Used to laugh and call him names
They never let poor Elric
Join in any Imrryr games

Then one bloody, mis'rable day
Arioch came to say
"Elric with your skin so white
Won't! You be my slave tonight?"

Now all the other Imrryr
Are burnt to ash and smold'ring coals
'Cause Elric the pasty emo
Has a sword that feasts on souls!

Sorry. Had to be done.

JenP I am insanely jealous about your new city (not to mention dinner with lisah).

Hil may your advisor wake up this morning with something new on his mind, like a brain.

Fish-top mermaids will be sticking with me all day tyvm, as will the Elric filk.

My project is closing on completion, only a month late due to client PEBKAC errors. I am very glad.

And late last night I had the kind of argument with my mom that I know better than to engage in, but I was tired of the sniping and the bitter - her side, fueled by Fox News, consistently referring to the Government as 'them' and talking about 'big brother' scenarios; me getting more and more upset even as my brain screamed "do.not.engage!" So I wake to a letter this morning that contains a good deal more of the same, as well as disappointment that she has raised a daughter who cannot empathize with others or have a rational discussion.

Because I am obviously deficient in my logic, I am crowdsourcing my response on Google Docs with a few members of my family who have better web-fu and more calm than I do. (Sparky, insent) Anyone who wants to add in points about why one might feel that Fox News is not a reliable news source, and/or why the current government is not a Big Brother state, please do - either here or at my profile addy.

yay.

I was up with the chills last night so I'm thinking that the sore throat is not allergies. Although, I feel better this morning.

{{{Hil}}} I'm sorry you have to deal with such bs. I have no advice other than to say that you should listen to the wise people here.

Hil may your advisor wake up this morning with something new on his mind, like a brain.

I was thinking having woken up to discover a plague of frogs had peed on his head.

This guy offends every teaching instinct I have, but then again-- higher level academics. I know it was already pointed out that these folks don't get to where they're at because of their teaching abilities but rather what they can bring in academic ability to the institution.

I still remember that Lewis' honors advisor as an undergrad had all the people skills of a pissed-off cobra, but she was very, very good at her discipline. (Ironic when you consider it was psychology.) He at least learned from her, though because he was able to work around her lack of interpersonal skills.

Okay, woke up with this in my head and I have to get it out there.

...

Not gonna ask.

Thanks, Calli. The way she was talking about thinking about options and "making decisions" and whatnot makes me think that she is considering not undergoing extreme treatment.

She sees her surgeon on Friday, I guess we'll all know more then.

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