My love for me now / Ain't hard to explain / The Hero of Canton / The man they call...ME.

Jayne ,'Jaynestown'


Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Barb - Oct 17, 2009 4:50:42 pm PDT #26821 of 30000
“Not dead yet!”

Robin is a god. That is all.


DavidS - Oct 17, 2009 5:09:38 pm PDT #26822 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Robin is a god. That is all.

God has a lot to answer for.


DavidS - Oct 17, 2009 5:11:45 pm PDT #26823 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

A whole lot.


DavidS - Oct 17, 2009 5:14:03 pm PDT #26824 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Why would god do this to us?


Nora Deirdre - Oct 17, 2009 5:15:19 pm PDT #26825 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

OK, the rest of my restaurant reviews-mostly from Napa and one more form SF:

Cyrus

The French Laundry

Ubuntu

JoLe and Brix

COI


Topic!Cindy - Oct 17, 2009 5:20:58 pm PDT #26826 of 30000
What is even happening?

Teppy, thanks for the Schrodinger's Rapist entry. Great stuff.


Barb - Oct 17, 2009 5:39:11 pm PDT #26827 of 30000
“Not dead yet!”

Hec, he incorporated apologies for those as well as ruminating on how surreal it is to see porn versions of films he's done.


billytea - Oct 17, 2009 5:46:57 pm PDT #26828 of 30000
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.

It's crazy because all the overt caution messages we get, or at least that I got, involved stranger danger. It's crazy because making connections with people is supposed to afford some protection. But even if we never go out with men we don't know, how likely is it that we can actually get to know all of the men around us well enough to have a clue if they are the kind of men who turn out to be rapists, before we let ourselves be alone in a room with them?

The comments on the SR article talked a bit about this stat, that most rapists are known to their victim. They raised the very good point that it doesn't say how well known. Rapists are going to run the gamut, from close family members to first dates to someone whose name you know but haven't ever talked to. (To total strangers.) Not terribly comforting.

ETA: It's also crazy because our good Buffista guys would never dream of doing that sort of thing, but to a certain extent, it is logical for the women around them (who don't know them as well as we do) to put them in the Schoedinger's Rapist category.

This part I understand, and I think it's quite reasonable. It's not a personal call on anything internal to the guy in the Schrodinger position. It's just that at the outset, there's nothing to distinguish threats from not-so-much threats. It's the woman's decision what cues and clues will make her feel comfortable, and that article was very well done in providing a framework for a guy to think about that.


DavidS - Oct 17, 2009 5:51:38 pm PDT #26829 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Hec, he incorporated apologies for those as well as ruminating on how surreal it is to see porn versions of films he's done.

I don't have a particular animus against Robin; but I am fascinated by how he trainwrecked his film career so thoroughly. That was a simply awesome run of awfulness. Not to mention this one.

They weren't just bad movies. They created a total skin crawling aversion effect.


Barb - Oct 17, 2009 5:54:29 pm PDT #26830 of 30000
“Not dead yet!”

His film choices are admittedly hit or miss, but he's still a brilliant stand up guy.