Harken: You fought with Captain Reynolds in the war? Zoe: Fought with a lot of people in the war. Harken: And your husband? Zoe: Fight with him sometimes, too.

'Bushwhacked'


Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Miracleman - Oct 07, 2009 4:11:23 pm PDT #25641 of 30000
No, I don't think I will - me, quoting Captain Steve Rogers, to all of 2020

I would've had to include a "just kidding" disclaimer which seemed wussy.

Just say "Snooch".


Steph L. - Oct 07, 2009 4:20:55 pm PDT #25642 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism

Okay -- What's My Line 1 & 2, it is! Uh...are!


billytea - Oct 07, 2009 4:41:55 pm PDT #25643 of 30000
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.

I say you have to throw in Passion, and Becoming Pts 1 & 2.


Zenkitty - Oct 07, 2009 4:56:03 pm PDT #25644 of 30000
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

Zenkitty, however, can speak on this subject with authority.

tries to look innocent

fails utterly


Trudy Booth - Oct 07, 2009 5:08:42 pm PDT #25645 of 30000
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart

Yeah, I get confused by the "girlfriend" thing too.

I tend to giggle like a 12 year old.

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Not quite -- in the US version of the thing, there are a few states that allow marriage by declaring yourselves to be married (as opposed to getting a license from the gummint); this can include either doing a thing in front of witnesses or living/presenting yourselves as if married. This all goes back to English law before the marriage law reforms of the 1750s*, and so only exists in states that adopted their local laws way back then: definitely Pennsylvania, maybe New Hampshire and a few other legal oddballs? In none of those places is there an automatic "you're hitched if you live together for xxyy years"** without intention to marry, and in the places where it does exist, the rules vary widely.

As I understand it, in Pennsylvania the Quaker founders had something to do with the fact that you can just declare yourselves married and don't need an officiant. I could be totally wrong of course.

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When Lewis and I lived together, before we were married, his mother used to refer to me as his "special friend."

Which caused us no end of amusement.

You were his period?

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Cashmere - Oct 07, 2009 5:42:49 pm PDT #25646 of 30000
Now tagless for your comfort.

Teppy, I love your doctor.

I'm due for something like that to happen to me. I have a q-tip problem. Inner ear frottage = eargasm.


erin_obscure - Oct 07, 2009 5:44:36 pm PDT #25647 of 30000
Occasionally I’m callous and strange

Common law marriage is recognized only in the following states:

* Alabama
* Colorado
* District of Columbia
* Iowa
* Kansas
* Montana
* New Hampshire (for inheritance purposes only)
* Oklahoma
* Pennsylvania
* Rhode Island
* South Carolina
* Texas
* Utah

And requires:
* a heterosexual couple lives together in a state that recognizes common law marriages
* for a significant period of time (not defined in any state)
* holding themselves out as a married couple -- typically this means using the same last name, referring to the other as "my husband" or "my wife" and filing a joint tax return, and
* intending to be married.

( i checked into this while living with a male roomate of the non-romantic variety in CA)

Every time i hear "special friend" i just assume they have a developmental disability.

et for formatting


JenP - Oct 07, 2009 5:48:13 pm PDT #25648 of 30000

Teppy, I love your doctor.

Same here.


Barb - Oct 07, 2009 5:48:20 pm PDT #25649 of 30000
“Not dead yet!”

You were his period?

That was one of the things that would crack us up, yes.

Oh man, were we just a mystery to his family for the longest time. We've always been such a unit unto ourselves, with the bent sense of humor and just... the interests that no one else in the immediate family really gets. Like moving across the country just because we want to and we think it'll be best for our immediate family.

However, to their credit, they also see that we've had a ridiculously strong relationship, so I think they're more than happy to claim us. Most of the time.


§ ita § - Oct 07, 2009 5:56:15 pm PDT #25650 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

How seriously is formal separation taken for most common law couples? I mean, is there common law divorce?