I'm so terrified of conflict and I really want people to like me.
I have a really hard time with this on a personal level. It's important to me that, for example, the people who run the daycare or my neighbors, or whoever, like me. Professionally, though, being disliked doesn't bother me at all. Somehow, knowing that I'm "doing my job" makes it okay for people to not like me in that context. I suspect figuring out the source of the difference could be enlightening, but I haven't gotten there yet.
I'm so terrified of conflict and I really want people to like me.
This is easier to deal with as a boss than it is as a parent. Being the bad guy with your kids is much harder. That whole 'this hurts me more than you' thing is so true. When I need to ground them or whatever it makes me far more miserable. They get over it quicker than me.
Honestly, I can't tell you how many times I've thought, "Man, I so wish I could channel Vortex right now..."
Channel away! A good vortex beginning is "you know what, motherfucker . . ." Or polar bear. Whichever.
Honestly, I can't tell you how many times I've thought, "Man, I so wish I could channel Vortex right now..."
I do that too.
Glad to hear about grumpy dad, omnis.
A good vortex beginning is "you know what, motherfucker . . ."
I love this so much and now have visions of a work conversation.
Student: But Ms. M, I'm not late.
Me: Yes, you are. Class started 30 seconds ago. That's tardy.
Student: No, it's not.
Me: You know what, motherfucker, come to detention and we'll talk about it then.
Hmmmmm....think that might get me fired??
Hmmmmm....think that might get me fired??
Not if you say, "You know what, polar bear, come to detention and we'll talk about it then."
Not if you say, "You know what, polar bear, come to detention and we'll talk about it then."
Totally going to do that.
Actually, my kids this semester are pretty great. They're fun and creative and full of energy. Which means they do great in my class but sometimes have Issues in their core classes.
Hah! I am so going to have to start doing that. I mean, polar bear will still get you some funny looks but not quite the same way.
Yeah, that definitely happens with us, ChiKat. We're all, "So&So is great! So attentive and he works so hard!" And the other teachers are all "..."
I mean, part of what we do is recognize kids that are smart but slipping through the system. But lots more of it is just SO syndrome, which is to say, rocking his music classes, not interested in anything else. He gives a good lecture about this.
